Thanks Redtailgal, for starting this thread. And might I say, WOW! I had a hard time reading that, and I'm sure it was 20 times harder for you to write. I had only read part way through before I restarted, reading your family's story to my mom. Praise God for your BIL not getting his hair cut when he "should have"!
Me? I woke up at home to my mom telling me that a plane had crashed into one of the twin towers. My brain was a little fuzzy at first, and I was saddened for lives inevitably lost, but thought like most people at first, that it had been a cesna or some equally small plane... since it had happened a couple times already that year(small planes crashing into skyscrapers). Then, while sipping my wake up the brain coffee and watching it all unfold on FOXNews Channel, I remember seeing the LIVE helicopter video as they circled the towers, and seeing that slight shimmer off the second plane in the distance, and then the explosion as it hit the second tower... My heart sank into my stomach. I remember hearing the wave of shocked voices echo through the news station... it was almost eerier to me(I was 17 at the time) than what I was watching happen. My Mom was on the phone with my sister who lives in KS... she was crying, asking our mom if the people she was hanging out with were just playing a cruel joke on her. I remember watching and hoping that emergency crews would be able to evacuate everyone and that fires could get under control quickly... and then the omg's from the station crew members as they announced that another plane had hit the Pentagon.... Honestly, I had never been so terrified in my life. As each moment passed, I wanted to believe that I was having some insanely disturbingly realistic nightmare and that I would snap awake and everything would be fine when I woke up... but I knew, thanks to that sickening twinging between my heart and stomach, that it was no nightmare. The most surreal part was after the second tower fell... seeing the people walk out of the dust cloud and the streets surrounding them covered in about 3 inches of dust. I remember feeling halfway sickened by my thought following the crash in PA... I thought, "Thank God." That one thought tore at me... I was torn between incredible sorrow, and thankfulness that that plane never made it to its feared destination of the White House.
I don't recall exactly how much sleep I got that night... or should I say how little... I know it wasn't much, becasue I was awake before the sun rose the next day. The image most in my memory from September 12, 2001... is a reflection on an iconic day in our nation's history... the day that our nations anthem was written. People woke up to a bright and beautiful American flag hanging from the twisted metal of what used to be one of the twin towers. And there the words were, as much alive in all our hearts as they were when they were first penned by attorney Francis Scott Key in 1814:
"Oh say, can you see, by the dawn's early light,
What so proudly we hailed at the twilight's last gleaming?
Whose broad stripes and bright stars, thru the perilous fight,
O'er the ramparts we watched, were so gallantly streaming?
And the rockets' red glare, the bombs bursting in air,
Gave proof through the night that our flag was still there.
O say, does that star-spangled banner yet wave
O'er the land of the free and the home of the brave?
For a while anyways, we were the UNITED States of America. There was no, Mexican, Irish, French, Jewwish, atheist, etc... we were all simply and strongly: Americans. Politicians left politics in the rubble and became statesmen of old. Though the world thought we were defeated, America was standing stronger than we had in many years.
God bless America!

& love to you all.