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[farmerjan]

I have to ask @Show Sebright ... how is it that you have a Barred Rock for your avatar????
Hope that you got a "2nd wind" and got through the Horse Evaluation Competition today.

 

[Simpleterrier]

So I just gotta ask seeing your husband and your kids seeing an being with their dad 4 days out of every 8 or keeping your chickens and guinea pigs and cats.

Just read that a few times over and over you'd rather have a chicken a cat and a guinea pig instead of your husband and your kids dad.

If my wife said that we'd be having chicken and cat and guinea pig stir fry

 

[Jesusfreak101]

thats not what i said at all. but okay i was saying i would be upset and would prefer not getting rid of them... and if you are referong to the renting thing its hard to find a hiuse in our price range thats okay with us having five kids.
my biggest concern has mostly been the safety factor. of the location also the abilitly living in a rv full tim with 7 of us. and i have gotten rid of every animal expect the kids pets... which dh has also stated his reluctance in getting rid of their pets with all the bs they have gone through. i dont care for the way you took what i said.

 

[Jesusfreak101]

@Simpleterrier might help yiu understand all of what i thinking about.

 

[farmerjan]

I get the quandary that @Jesusfreak101 is in. They have changed his work schedule already twice. What if they give up everything and go there, the kids will go nuts in an apt after having a much "freer" lifestyle. She will feel hemmed in and if the area is not all that safe, the kids will not be able to go outside unsupervised at all. There are 2 small ones plus the baby to have to take into consideration. The pets at least give the kids some outlet. What if he is not there for 4 out of 8 days. What if his schedule changes again and again.. or he gets sent out of the area for a few weeks??

Personally I would not want to be that close to that area right at this point in time. I have several farmer friends that have expressed their problems with being along the border... with kids it is worse. The one says that now he will not allow any of his kids to go out alone on the property that has been in his family for over 100 years. His teenagers take a rifle when they go out on the farm now... always in pairs. That is no life. It is not just an occasional happening. He has found several dead illegals that the "mules" will desert once they get across the border and they already have paid some of their money.... the one guy rides with the border patrol on his land.... there is more garbage left behind like needles and drug crap... and the disgusting waste of real crap and stuff... clothes, backpacks, you name it. There are too many cases of assault, rapes, breaking into houses. One other guy said his parents house was being broken into and the mother called whatever authorities, then called the son.... he got there and wounded one that had gotten in and threatened the elderly father with a knife... and held them at gun point for over an HOUR because the border patrol and sheriff's were tied up elsewhere and they are stretched so thin.

No, I would think it over a hundred times and much as she might want to move, I would not make that move with 5 young children when she is still going to be the primary caregiver. Justifying the animals is one way to not let the possible horrors take up too much of her thoughts.

If I could give @Jesusfreak101 one piece of advice, as I guess I am doing here, is to think of this as being in the "military" to where your loved one is gone for an extended type of deployment. Wives and families of soldiers do things like this for months on end. She and her husband need to come to some sort of reasonable visitation... maybe once a month go there for the 4 days.... rent a camper for the family, she can drive one of those that aren't too big... make it into a vacation to go see dad at his work for a few days... and do whatever it takes to keep it together at home. If something happened to one of the kids, she would never forgive herself or her husband. Go down and see the area... get a feel for it. Then if it feels not to be so threatening, look around. Yes, he could spend the first of his 4 days off looking around for a place to rent.... maybe someplace they could park a trailer or something? But I would not make those kind of decisions until I spent at least one trip down there for a couple of days.

 

[Jesusfreak101]

@Simpleterrier forgot to add my quote

@Bruce he working in the Texas military all expense paid he has housing in a bunk house and food provide on base along with anything else he needs. He is currently station on the border. So its not an extra expense there. Its terms of how close, whats the best option and safest option concerning the kids and the fact i would still be alone.He is reguired to remain on base unless he has time days off which he really doesnt get. But I have church family here who will help with things and my parents are only 2.5 hours away compaired to adding like another 3hrs give or take to their drive.

 

[Jesusfreak101]

thank you @farmerjan. yes it something we constantly discussing and maybe even just moving closer that way but not all the way. just to make visits easier. dh says his area isnt as bad as other but still not the point for either of us. this is going to be a hard desion that takes more talks that are hard to have because of his schedule. he on night shift they had him work 6days off one and cant seem to keep a schedule more then a few days they are under manned. right now they are on 4on 4off. they are also required to stay in pairs while on base even to use the restroom. same if they want to leave the base women are required to be accompained by two or more men. so yah i am still thinking its not a good plan. i dont mind moving a hr closer but umm any closer and i nervous as a bat in sunlight.

 

[Simpleterrier]

@Jesusfreak101 hey I read and took that wrong. Glad to hear I am not correct in what how I read it

 

[Jesusfreak101]

i can understand that its lack of context and all

 

[Show Sebright]

I have to ask @Show Sebright ... how is it that you have a Barred Rock for your avatar????
Hope that you got a "2nd wind" and got through the Horse Evaluation Competition today.

Thanks. I hope we did good we just got home. looooong day.
Barred rock is there for advertising my 3 barred rock for sale at the Central Florida fair. You can auction for 3 and if you will you can choose to have and additional 2!