Farewell, Gypsy Queen

GoatGirl2019

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I recently lost my TWH. August 27, 2021.
She collapsed in her pasture and just never got back up again.
I'm having a very hard time with this.

Any advice??

This is Gypsy and me just a week or two before we had to put her down.
 

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I totally understand. That blue eye in my avatar belonged to the love of my life, Joe's Tuff Bars. Not long after my husband and I married in 1996, this skinny white horse appeared in the neighbor's lot. I got home from work, saw him and went to have a closer look. He was all cut up, standing 3 legged, head down, lip hanging loose, he looked bad. But he saw me and slowly limped to the fence and put his head over the fence. I instantly fell in love. My husband saw this and a few weeks later, my husband was at the neighbor's house when the owner came to feed the horse, and he bought the horse for me.

This began a long love affair between me and Joe. My best buddy, my pal, my friend. He was so gentle and laid back, a baby was safe on him. He showed some spirit when I rode him, but anybody else and the joke was that he had 2 speeds, SLOW and STOP.

I could go on and on about Joe. Other horses came and went, but he was my one and only.

He got Cushings. I bawled and cried my eyes out that my baby was starting down a trail with bumps and lumps that would come to a slow end. He lost weight, he got slower and finally I had to face reality. My son told me it was time to let him go. He came to visit and told me it wasn't fair to Joe and I needed to do what was right. It took me a few more months to come to grips with it and on August 18, 2020, we put him down. I am so grieved by his loss that I can't write his story. Even now I go visit his grave, talk to him and cry. I'll be selling the farm and will have to leave him behind, but he will always be in my heart.

So I get it. I get it that your best friend is gone and the huge hole in your heart that will always be there. Yes, it is hard. There are special horses that are like an extension of your own body. Your spirit soars, your hearts become one and you read each other's minds. When they leave us, it is like losing a family member-because that is what they are.

All I know to tell you is that you will continue to have a hard time with it. You will continue to grieve for the loss of your best friend. Over time, the hurt will turn to fond memories and you will never forget her.

I had 3 other horses that I had to find good homes for because I am moving to a much smaller place. I'm keeping my sheep and dogs. But when I buy another place, I will get another horse, maybe two. I had 2 Tennessee Walkers, one was 36, I gave her to the lady that bought the other mare. I was going to put her down because I knew nobody would want her and she absolutely was not going to auction with a one way ticket to Mexico. The lady asked about her, then said she would take her so the two mares could remain friends. I hugged her and cried. So relieved! She sent pictures and they are happy, in a good place.

Grieve over your mare. Cherish her memory and remember the good times you had together. Take your time, but look for another horse. When you find the right one, you will know it. And another love affair will begin.

I will find my new best friend some day. I will know him or her, when the time is right and the most perfect horse in the world comes to me for a rub on the nose.

And so will you.
 

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All I know to tell you is that you will continue to have a hard time with it. You will continue to grieve for the loss of your best friend. Over time, the hurt will turn to fond memories and you will never forget her.

This is true...like many losses in our lives that we must endure. Often the greatness of the loss is not understood by others but, it's so real! I've had a few of these and none are easy. To this day I can hear a tiny mini stallion talk to me as I pass "his" gate. I am thankful for the years we had and wait to pet him again in the ever after. Listen and you will hear your girl let you know she is waiting. 💓

I'm so sorry for the loss and know how heavy it is. Hugs.
 

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This is true...like many losses in our lives that we must endure. Often the greatness of the loss is not understood by others but, it's so real! I've had a few of these and none are easy. To this day I can hear a tiny mini stallion talk to me as I pass "his" gate. I am thankful for the years we had and wait to pet him again in the ever after. Listen and you will hear your girl let you know she is waiting. 💓

I'm so sorry for the loss and know how heavy it is. Hugs.
I still have Gypsy's pasture mate... A 2 and a half year old mini. Bubby. His real name is Sebastian. Who hates, I mean really hates, if I call him a pony lol.
This is Bubby.
 

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