77Herford Farm Zoo Journal Moving

[Ms. Research]

DH and I did the same thing as Roll stated. Started out with his money and my money which turned into Our Money. We both talk together before we purchase anything. Has always been that way.

But I think you might get a "get out of trouble" card because it IS your family farm you are talking about. I don't see why your wife would get too upset for you draining the checkbook.

Now next week when the bills come in, there could be an all together different story. Good Luck.

 

[marlowmanor]

When it is explained to your wife what money was spent on I don't know that she will mind as much. I know with DH and I we have the shared money. Right now he is the only one working, so his paycheck has to cover everything. The first thing we do is figure up bills and get them dealt with then whatever is left is money we can spend on other things we may need. Most of the time whatever we spend money on is done together because we are always together if we go shopping. Since DH earns the money I always make sure if there is something I want I discuss it with him first to make sure we have the money for it, and it's okay to get it. Now with holidays coming up soon, I'll have to get some things without his knowledge, but won't be spending much anyway. I have a little of my own money I've been saving up so that can go towards holidays and the birthdays that are coming up in this month and the next 2 months (all the boys have winter birthdays, as well as DH).

So I think you will be in the clear. If your wife can buy more cows without your knowledge, you have the right to buy more land without consulting her.

 

[77Herford]

Well I know the whole marriage thing you are suppose to combine the wealth and with it trust but this money I had before saved up mostly before I even met my wife. She knows it exists as we get the quarterly reports on it but thats about it.
Now that we are married my DW works at a small animal clinic as a Vet tech and also does canning and sells some of it at farmers markets. We combine our money from farming income to her job but her canning sales, we agreed are her money as she does a large amount of the work.
I was only able to afford my property now because of the DOT.com bubble in the late 90's and early 2000's. I invested heavily into them and pulled out most of my money before the collapse. I wouldn't say I'm rich since buying the farm's and materials pretty much sucked me dry but without my stock market money I would be a MUCH smaller farm.

 

[Ms. Research]

Well I know the whole marriage thing you are suppose to combine the wealth and with it trust but this money I had before saved up mostly before I even met my wife. She knows it exists as we get the quarterly reports on it but thats about it.
Now that we are married my DW works at a small animal clinic as a Vet tech and also does canning and sells some of it at farmers markets. We combine our money from farming income to her job but her canning sales, we agreed are her money as she does a large amount of the work.
I was only able to afford my property now because of the DOT.com bubble in the late 90's and early 2000's. I invested heavily into them and pulled out most of my money before the collapse. I wouldn't say I'm rich since buying the farm's and materials pretty much sucked me dry but without my stock market money I would be a MUCH smaller farm.

Sounds like you are a team. That's all that matters.

 

[77Herford]

We'll find out in moments as she's doing the books now. I think I'll go down and tell her before she gets to my check book...If I'm not back in ten minutes with a response call the authorities as I'm dead meat, lol.

 

[Ms. Research]

We'll find out in moments as she's doing the books now. I think I'll go down and tell her before she gets to my check book...If I'm not back in ten minutes with a response call the authorities as I'm dead meat, lol.

DH says take flowers and chocolates. And as you are presenting them, state how beautiful she looks and is the best thing that ever happened to you.

But I don't think this will work, but DH says worth a try.

Also DH suggests surrounding yourself with cows and goats. You know the ones she purchased without your knowledge and consent. Say look how pretty all the livestock is.

Giving some suggestions with humor involved. It will all work out. At least you have a plan, that's the main thing. Doing it without a plan, that can cause trouble.

 

[daisychick]

Good luck

 

[77Herford]

My wife is a clever one, she already knew. She over heard the entire call, sneaky little she-devil. She is very happy I purchase my family farm but wanted me to tell her.
This of course brought up the quick conversation of love and trust, blah, blah, blah..
Oh, a not being affraid to discuss matters with each other even if they seem far fetched and she agreed it was my seperate cash from before.
I think this calls for one nice Christmas present (Diamonds maybe).

 

[Ms. Research]

My wife is a clever one, she already knew. She over heard the entire call, sneaky little she-devil. She is very happy I purchase my family farm but wanted me to tell her.
This of course brought up the quick conversation of love and trust, blah, blah, blah..
Oh, a not being affraid to discuss matters with each other even if they seem far fetched and she agreed it was my seperate cash from before.
I think this calls for one nice Christmas present (Diamonds maybe).

Glad you replied. Everybody now can put down their phones. 911 not needed.

 

[marlowmanor]

You didn't even have to pour on the charm for her! Women are smart like that. DH can't hide much from me either. She does deserve a nice Christmas present!