Coffee anyone ?

[Cecilia's-herd]

Once you become a parent, there is no such thing as personal space. At least until they get to a much older age. They do not understand it and they NEED to security of the parent. Some are fine with being put down more, some are not. Until they feel like they have some "control" of their own, you are theirs.... if you do not realize that you need to get mentally prepared for that. The slings and backpacks are much more soothing and encourage a baby to feel like they have security. Why do you think that the native americans used cradle boards... other's used all sort of slings of different types? It made it possible for the mother to do her work and have the child close. Back then, they also needed to have the child safe, and be able to use their hands with weapons and such if needed for protection.

I remember thinking that there were days I would climb a wall from the demands of a baby... and my ex was no help when my son was small. No patience. You have to have the patience of a saint and draw from some deep wells of reserve when you are ready to blow your top, or cry til you think you can't cry anymore.

I am not trying to be critical, but you really do need to understand that your life is not your own once you have a child. You learn to find a balance, but in the beginning it is not going to be about you needing space... you are going to have to put that child first in everything you do.

Thank you. I am going to need a LOT of reminders throughout this pregnancy about the need to be patient.

 

[Alaskan]

I had so many parenting ideas.... and then we had a kid.



He was the happiest kid in the world... as long as he was, truly, held 24/7. No idea why... just the way he was wired. We got good at holding him while we ate, and peed, and slept. (Luckily we worked as a team)

Yep... he would sit on my lap while he played with blocks!

But.... once he made it clear that we WOULD hold him at all times... well, I did oodles of reading and research and jumped on the "attachment parenting" train.

And finally, at 2, he would happily be babysat, and was no longer glued to us.

But he had to sleep with us until the next kid was old enough to sleep with him.

I think he slept truly by himself at 8???

Anyway.... those times are long past.

And in hindsight, I am happy he broke us in and forced us to parent that way. None of my kids went through any kind of rebellious stage. I have a great relationship with all of them. They are NOW super independent and capable kids and adults. They are incredibly kind and considerate.

Eldest is about to be 23, youngest is 13. The oldest three already have retirement accounts, and are doing great. I am super proud of them all.

 

[Cecilia's-herd]

None of my kids went through any kind of rebellious stage. I have a great relationship with all of them. They are NOW super independent and capable kids and adults. They are incredibly kind and considerate.

That’s sounds like exactly what I want. Attachment parenting. Hmm I will look into it. I definitely had a big rebellious stage I don’t want for baby

 

[Finnie]

I don't think you can charge that much more!

 

[Finnie]

Luckily we worked as a team)

This is the key right here. It’s not always possible, but it is worth striving for.

 

[CLSranch]

What are some of those places you look up online to find places to stay. Not regular hotels, B&B's or campgrounds but the newer people renting a room or a loft out back. Besides craigslist.
This campground i'm at is double my house payment and doesn't even have sewer hookups. That'll make a hard 4 months.

 

[CLSranch]

And sorry I've been busy. I didn't catch up on the last 20 pages.

 

[Finnie]

Eldest is about to be 23,

My youngest just turned 23. Oldest (of 5) is 35. It’s hard to believe it’s been so long since they were babies.

 

[Cecilia's-herd]

I don't think you can charge that much more!

Hahaha I was thinking more like 3.00 instead of 2.50 nothing crazy

 

[Finnie]

Hahaha I was thinking more like 3.00 instead of 2.50 nothing crazy

Ha ha! You are going to need to hit the garage sales for a stroller!

Maybe you can find a deal like I got. A real nice Chico stroller that wasn’t priced, so I asked how much and the guy was like “I don’t know, my wife isn’t here. How about $10?” So of course I said OK. His wife was probably very mad at him when she got back!