Coffee anyone ?
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Cecilia's-herd
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No, and honestly I’m still trying to decide if I even want the midwife there, I don’t really see the point. Also can I get the front seat of the car story?
Alaskan
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Midwife is super important.
Midwife makes sure things go smoothly, everyone stays calm, and knows what to do if things go wrong.
Since they are experienced they know what things are normal and what things are not.
They also know how to fiddle with stuff to help things along and to reduce pain.
And they help to reduce tearing.
Also, they tend to be more meticulous as to their stitch work. At least in our experience.
The "fruity granola" types that we used were very supportive, holistic, and helped with all aspects of the birth including emotional and psychological.
We interviewed a more medically oriented midwife... didn't like her at all.
As to the car birth...
We were going to have him at the midwife clinic like kid 2. Nice and roomy room at the clinic, perfectly clean (unlike our house), they clean up after you.... and they had just put in a nice huge birthing tub.
BUT, kid 3 was just insane fast... labor started, got in the car, 30 minutes later kid shot out.
Labor for kid 1 was 18 hours or some such, kid 2 was 9 hours... no idea why kid 3 was so fast, perfectly positioned I guess. Kid 4 was again about 9 hours.
Cecilia's-herd
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You sound like my mom 
. Fine I’ll keep the midwife 
. I just don’t want anyone to talk much during my labor, I know that for sure. Pain is something that focuses me, hopefully that will be in my favor.
. Fine I’ll keep the midwife . I just don’t want anyone to talk much during my labor, I know that for sure. Pain is something that focuses me, hopefully that will be in my favor.
Bruce
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That would be plus. DW's OB for DD1, the only male in the high risk practice, seemed in a bit of a hurry to get home for dinner. Episiotomy for a 5# 9 oz baby.
Baymule
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Alaskan
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Make sure you tell her that ahead of time.You sound like my mom
Our midwife was pretty cool and very accommodating.
2nd kid was born to an Enya CD... but the other kids had no music.
Some moms like candles/ smells, whatever.
The biggest help we found was to "ride the wave". If you tense up to the pain it causes it to be much more painful.
All of the hippy mumbo jumbo "ride the wave" etc. Was actually helpful.
Cecilia's-herd
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Is it bad for me to say I don’t know who Enya is?Make sure you tell her that ahead of time.
Our midwife was pretty cool and very accommodating.
2nd kid was born to an Enya CD... but the other kids had no music.
Some moms like candles/ smells, whatever.
The biggest help we found was to "ride the wave". If you tense up to the pain it causes it to be much more painful.
All of the hippy mumbo jumbo "ride the wave" etc. Was actually helpful.
Pain is something that grounds me to reality, I had a really bad skin picking problem when I was a teen because the pain of picking made it easier to focus. Especially on tests.
Alaskan
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This is just one song, but we had an album of hers on loop..... a single cd.... for 9 hours.
Cecilia's-herd
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Ok to be fair I was born in 1999, but I really really like that song! My favorite artist is James Taylor. My dad hates him LOL!
This is just one song, but we had an album of hers on loop..... a single cd.... for 9 hours.
