Coffee anyone ?

[Bruce]

We have been working hard around here the past two days on the wrong end of a shovel.

Probably could have gotten more done, more quickly if you had been working from the handle end!

 

[Jesusfreak101]

well looks like miss muffin going to have piglets soon she swollen, and has milk she also not eating and she was yesterday not even interested in muffins or pancakes which for her is strange. she also acting extra motherly towards the piglets that are with her. so looks like piglets are on the way. also i was able to approach her in the box trailer she loves to sleep in and she didn't stand up which is a first. i had one knee on the ramp and she didn't even stand up. not even my goats would stay laying when i approached it goes against instint to remaining laying with the exit blocked.

 

[promiseacres]

@Jesusfreak101 Yes EVERYTHING is writing AT the lawyers! Moving my Mom locally has turned into a nightmare.
Lots of good intentions gone bad I guess. For example just today she decided to "gift" us with 5 extra bags of the horse feed that her 2 horses and 2 of mine eat. So I went to pick up 5 bags (3 horse, 2 rabbit) and brought home 10. I DO NOT HAVE the storage space for 5 extra bags of one of the 3 feeds I order and pick up every 2 weeks. And it doesn't save me a trip because I will still need the other 2 types. I assume you know the saying "Don't look a gift horse in the mouth" ? I'm trying to do that today but ACK! I've been pulling my hair out with her good intentions and plan changes that magically "just happen" everytime she gets a whim, so I just have to adapt...

 

[Xerocles]

So I went to pick up 5 bags (3 horse, 2 rabbit) and brought home 10. I DO NOT HAVE the storage space for 5 extra bags

Gosh, I hate to see a fellow BHYer with problems. I'll help you out and take that extra rabbit feed off your hands. I'll just stuff it under my bed if necessary!

 

[Xerocles]

but ACK! I've been pulling my hair out with her good intentions and plan changes that magically "just happen" everytime she gets a whim, so I just have to adapt...

And just try to remember when you were 15 and had sudden plans for a sleepover, cheerleader tryout, 4H cookout or whatever and she had to shuffle HER life to accommodate YOUR whims! Payback is a MF.
Wish I still had my Mom to drive me crazy (and, yes, they ALL do).

 

[thistlebloom]

believe or not his entire family is on this deal doesnt mean they stick to it. since he was young him getting the homestead (grandparents house and five acres) has always been the plan. however like i said they have gone back in forth since we been here about whose name it would be under and if he would get it. it's one of the issues. and i won't touch the aunt thing they use their parents (so much so the grandparents dont have their life savings anymore) we discussed buying the property to help his grandparents financially.

I understand your reasons for caution. To me it looks like a ticking time bomb. Better to have your own place that you have chosen and be free of strings and family disputes. Even if it costs more financially. The emotional cost of family haranguing is much more of a burden.

Families sure can turn ugly when it comes to property or money...you are wise to be aware of what you have seen them do in the past...do what is best for you and your family

Oh yes, families can definitely get ugly. BTDT, although it was only one sibling, but she manages to create havoc enough to seem like an entire army. Lust for possessions brings out the deepest rancidness.

 

[promiseacres]

And just try to remember when you were 15 and had sudden plans for a sleepover, cheerleader tryout, 4H cookout or whatever and she had to shuffle HER life to accommodate YOUR whims! Payback is a MF.
Wish I still had my Mom to drive me crazy (and, yes, they ALL do).

Sounds like your teen years of cheerleading and 4H was perfect. I didn't come from the right family to be able to be a cheerleader (though honestly was the kid that thought it was pretty lame). And most of my teen years were spent trying how to figure out how to stay out of my stepfather's view while my Mom slept or read to escape life. I wasn't allowed do many extras except 4H until I could drive myself. Honestly the fact I let her back into my life is a miracle in itself...

 

[Xerocles]

Sounds like your teen years of cheerleading and 4H was perfect. I didn't come from the right family to be able to be a cheerleader (though honestly was the kid that thought it was pretty lame). And most of my teen years were spent trying how to figure out how to stay out of my stepfather's view while my Mom slept or read to escape life. I wasn't allowed do many extras except 4H until I could drive myself. Honestly the fact I let her back into my life is a miracle in itself...

I commiserate with you about the Wonderbread Years. I grew up kinda far out in the country. I did 4H in grammerschool because EVERYBODY did 4H and the schoolbus just ran late on those days. My parents both worked, so there was no "mom taxi". I didn't have to endure the step parent thing, adnittedly. But, as my Dad worked three jobs, I seldom saw him anyway. But there were no "organized" extra curricular activities in my life either. Until late middle school, when I joined the school band. I rode my bicycle (which I bought myself from money working at my Grandpa's country filling station) to all after school functions (six miles each way, with a trombone strapped on my back. When it was still safe for a kid to do things like that.) That was the extent of my "popular" things as a kid. Otherwise, just hanging out in the woods or working in Grandpa's store.
Sorry if I brought up unpleasant memories for you. The "unfortunates" always assume (at least I do) everyone else are one of the "fortunates".

 

[promiseacres]

@Xerocles apology accepted. I really shouldn't be so touchy. Things have not been good between us. Just have put myself in a between a rock and hard place when comes to my Mom and feeling like I just have to keep my mouth shut because of it. I am sorry I bit your head off. I am truly blessed and know we all have burdens.

 

[Duckfarmerpa1]

@Jesusfreak101 Yes EVERYTHING is writing AT the lawyers! Moving my Mom locally has turned into a nightmare.
Lots of good intentions gone bad I guess. For example just today she decided to "gift" us with 5 extra bags of the horse feed that her 2 horses and 2 of mine eat. So I went to pick up 5 bags (3 horse, 2 rabbit) and brought home 10. I DO NOT HAVE the storage space for 5 extra bags of one of the 3 feeds I order and pick up every 2 weeks. And it doesn't save me a trip because I will still need the other 2 types. I assume you know the saying "Don't look a gift horse in the mouth" ? I'm trying to do that today but ACK! I've been pulling my hair out with her good intentions and plan changes that magically "just happen" everytime she gets a whim, so I just have to adapt...

I’m sure you can find room...make your trip to get the other feed, but instead of getting the feed she brought, treat yourself to an ice cream cone! Nothing over $5..put the rest in a little savings jar...that money adds up fast and then you have extra cash for you and the hubby to buy something extra that wasn’t in the budget!