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Yep, because she is his favorite oldest daughter
Small "crowd", maybe she will decide she can fit in.
Me either!!!I have never had a bad mouthful from their table!
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Small "crowd", maybe she will decide she can fit in.
She has epilepsy, and though she's on meds for it, they don't completely control it. Over the past two years, the control has become even less to the point where she has had multiples, back to back, over several hours (as opposed to every other month) including at work (ambulance trip to hospital) then out walking the dog, (face plant on the concrete sidewalk, back to the hospital, again by ambulance) and because of all that she's developed pretty hefty anxiety issues and she's just a hot mess... She's never really been comfortable around crowds or strangers and a crowd is anything over 3-4 people... because of all this, she is an introvert, and very self conscious/shy, has esteem issues, etc. She ended up quitting her job in CO and moving back to Maine, where she's living with her aunt (they get along well) but has to deal with her biological incubator (can't even come close to calling her a mother... popping her out is about the full extent of her participation - could write a book about this, but not now).
I try to do that which will make her comfortable and relaxed. I knew she was coming loose at the seams and that's why I bought her tickets to come down. We have always been close. I met her at 4 years old and she called me daddy the first time she saw me. I adopted her after I married, and that began the journey.
We will come over late afternoon @Devonviolet but will not be there for the main meal. We're going to just do a nice quiet feast here. I know you'll understand. I look forward to our visit!
I try to do that which will make her comfortable and relaxed. I knew she was coming loose at the seams and that's why I bought her tickets to come down. We have always been close. I met her at 4 years old and she called me daddy the first time she saw me. I adopted her after I married, and that began the journey.
We will come over late afternoon @Devonviolet but will not be there for the main meal. We're going to just do a nice quiet feast here. I know you'll understand. I look forward to our visit!
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Yes. I totally understand. We will be serving dinner sometime between 2 and 3pm. Depending on when the turkey is done. I'm not sure when they will go home. But, I suspect it won't be too long after we get the kitchen semi-cleaned up. They will have a 1-1/2 hour drive to go home.
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Is she not working now Joe? DW has epilepsy, she was controlled most recently on Tegretol. Had some bad side effects with some of the others. I think it has gone into "remission" (if there is such a thing) after menopause, she's been off meds for several years and no seizures. I have seen 3 (luckily never requiring hospitalization), scary as all get out. I managed to hold it together until the seizure passed and she was sleeping, then I went somewhat into shock. Give your DD 
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Is she not working now Joe? DW has epilepsy, she was controlled most recently on Tegretol. Had some bad side effects with some of the others. I think it has gone into "remission" (if there is such a thing) after menopause, she's been off meds for several years and no seizures. I have seen 3 (luckily never requiring hospitalization), scary as all get out. I managed to hold it together until the seizure passed and she was sleeping, then I went somewhat into shock. Give your DD
too. Gotta be tough. Maybe they can figure something out to help.
She is no longer working... with the increase in seizures and other issues. She can't drive, she has to walk or take public transportation/lyft/uber... her anxiety has become a real issue day to day and she's on meds for that. She's working right now toward full SS disability. Like I said, she's a hot mess...
She started on tegretol when she was 4 yrs old... It worked for a number of years, then as she hit puberty, it stopped working and we were informed it wasn't the right med for her type. She's been through countless others and combinations and none have been 100% effective. If she were to come off everything, I have no idea how bad they would be. The docs up in ME have her scheduled with a specialty organization in NH that will do testing over a period of weeks and if they can figure it out, she may be a candidate for brain surgery. I really hope they can find the source and fix it.
Actually, many kids who have seizures do grow out of them, as do some adults with menopause. She's already missed the first option and is a good 10+ years away from the 2nd. She considered doing a hysterectomy to see if that would fix it, but the hormone issues that would have caused would have added even more to her full medical issue plate.
She started on tegretol when she was 4 yrs old... It worked for a number of years, then as she hit puberty, it stopped working and we were informed it wasn't the right med for her type. She's been through countless others and combinations and none have been 100% effective. If she were to come off everything, I have no idea how bad they would be. The docs up in ME have her scheduled with a specialty organization in NH that will do testing over a period of weeks and if they can figure it out, she may be a candidate for brain surgery. I really hope they can find the source and fix it.
Actually, many kids who have seizures do grow out of them, as do some adults with menopause. She's already missed the first option and is a good 10+ years away from the 2nd. She considered doing a hysterectomy to see if that would fix it, but the hormone issues that would have caused would have added even more to her full medical issue plate.
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Sounds like DD1 and her permanent migraine. The doctors can't figure out anything. We do have a wee bit of understanding what you and your DD are going through. Not a lot to look forward to when all you see is the headlight of the oncoming train. I sure hope the doctors in NH can figure something out. Is she going to Dartmouth Hitchcock?
yes. Dartmouth. Her Doc said there's a similar place in both Maine and Mass, but the one in NH is the best of them. They will also try to get everything funded and paid for so no cost aside from the gas money there and back. Her doc up there actually paid for a cab for her when her ride to an appt had to cancel. 
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Dartmouth is about 2 hours from here. I think you should go with her for a period I'd be happy to meet you there. It is only half the distance I'm driving every Thursday (other than this week) for vision therapy in Mass. I'd even be happy to pick you up at the Burlington airport and drive you to Dartmouth ... except that everything in and out of Burlington is expensive. Manchester, NH is cheaper and closer to Dartmouth. Oh heck, I'd pick you up there too, Dartmouth is on the way home from Manchester
I'd be happy to meet you there. It is only half the distance I'm driving every Thursday (other than this week) for vision therapy in Mass. I'd even be happy to pick you up at the Burlington airport and drive you to Dartmouth ... except that everything in and out of Burlington is expensive. Manchester, NH is cheaper and closer to Dartmouth. Oh heck, I'd pick you up there too, Dartmouth is on the way home from Manchester
Guess we can back off my issues on @Devonviolet 's journal... I have animals and am here by myself, so that kind of trip is doubtful. I'd prob find a way if she goes to surgery regardless.
So how are those girls doing, Falina & Ruby, now that they're past their promiscuity? Hope they've given up cigarettes again. Are they showing yet? 
So how are those girls doing, Falina & Ruby, now that they're past their promiscuity? Hope they've given up cigarettes again.
Are they showing yet? 
