ELeVan ~ Honaker Farm Journal

[bonbean01]

I had assumed that your FIL must be much older...only 60 and he's giving up on a treatable cancer? Just how bad is his dementia...bad enough for a doctor to deem him unfit for making his own health decisions? If so...a member of the family may step in and have him take the treatments to save his life.

However you go with this, always remember that care givers burn out quickly without time outs and support. An assisted living place is what we opted for with my FIL, with dementia, but then he is 90 years old and for reasons way too numerous to mention, living with us was not an option, nor with any of his children.

Never rains, but it pours....eh?

And yes...the bad does end...situations don't always end, but how much we are willing to be pushed around is our decision and the attitude we take helps with our own peace of mind.

You have a heavy load right now and am sending prayers and good wishes your way...this too will pass

 

[marlowmanor]

The boys and DH are creating tonight's menu...but they insist that I do the cooking..

Looks like we're having meatloaf with baked potatoes and banana milkshakes for dinner

That sounds like an ok dinner to me. It's just missing a vegetable that is colorful.

 

[ksalvagno]

I'm sorry you are going through so much. I have to agree that it seems like lately the bad stuff just doesn't end. But it is easier to focus on the bad instead of seeing the good that is going on too. I hope things smooth out for you some time in the near future.

 

[elevan]

Ugh! One of my DH's aunts called him to talk about his sister. Apparently she is really PO'ed about how FIL did his will. This makes me so mad. FIL isn't dead yet! She's more concerned about what her dad is leaving her than the fact that he's giving up on a treatable disease! That makes me sick...absolutely sick.

Apparently FIL stopped treatment back in September and is just now telling us. What a mess. All I can do is be there for DH, everyone else will have to live with the regret that will come later.

The boys and DH are creating tonight's menu...but they insist that I do the cooking..

Looks like we're having meatloaf with baked potatoes and banana milkshakes for dinner

That sounds like an ok dinner to me. It's just missing a vegetable that is colorful.

I added zucchini chips to that It was a very yummy dinner.

 

[autumnprairie]

sounds like a yummy dinner

 

[Roll farms]

I absolutely hate how 'families' get when there is an inheritance involved.

I'm STILL an outcast over my mom's will and I DIDN'T WRITE IT.

 

[Sunny & the 5 egg layers]

Sorry to hear about this big mess with your father in law. I hope it gets sorted out soon and he returns back to treatment.

 

[elevan]

He quit treatment back in September and is just now telling us. He decided that the side effects of treatment weren't worth it.

I would like to think that put into a similar situation that I would fight with everything in my being to win...but unless you've faced that issue head on you never really know what you'll actually do.

He's had too many lucid moments where he's stated that what he wants that DH and I would never force treatment onto him. I just wish he were more willing to compromise because we just cannot drop our lives and move to his town as he wants.

 

[autumnprairie]

 

[elevan]

We're considering running a pig share this year...have I lost my mind?