Baymule
Herd Master
A visit to your son is in order here. Then you can thank his girlfriend for taking such good care of him and for being there at such a critical time. You can update him on what is being done, within her earshot so she can get a good idea of what he does.
Privately tell her that you are glad she is in his life because you want him to be happy. Let her know that you aren’t some overbearing Mom and that you value yours and her relationship. You might even use the opportunity to confide in her that you are glad of her farming background because while you could certainly understand him slowing down somewhat, cows, hay and farming is in his DNA and you don’t ever see him giving it up. Let her know previous girlfriends have tried to get him to quit, we’re jealous of you and for some silly reason, none of them are around any more. Reiterate that you are no threat to their relationship, you want your son to be happy and if their relationship goes to the permanent status, you are there all the way for them. She might wind up helping YOU when you have your surgeries, that’s what family does, so think on that.
Thank her for what she is doing for your son. Ask what you can do to help her, she will probably say nothing or the equivalent. LOL Tell her that you are relieved that he is in such good hands, you don’t know how you would be able to take care of cows, work and him too.
Just ideas, put in your own words, or not at all. I know you don’t want to be the Dragon Lady future Mother In Law. LOL LOL
Privately tell her that you are glad she is in his life because you want him to be happy. Let her know that you aren’t some overbearing Mom and that you value yours and her relationship. You might even use the opportunity to confide in her that you are glad of her farming background because while you could certainly understand him slowing down somewhat, cows, hay and farming is in his DNA and you don’t ever see him giving it up. Let her know previous girlfriends have tried to get him to quit, we’re jealous of you and for some silly reason, none of them are around any more. Reiterate that you are no threat to their relationship, you want your son to be happy and if their relationship goes to the permanent status, you are there all the way for them. She might wind up helping YOU when you have your surgeries, that’s what family does, so think on that.
Thank her for what she is doing for your son. Ask what you can do to help her, she will probably say nothing or the equivalent. LOL Tell her that you are relieved that he is in such good hands, you don’t know how you would be able to take care of cows, work and him too.
Just ideas, put in your own words, or not at all. I know you don’t want to be the Dragon Lady future Mother In Law. LOL LOL