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It's not a big deal to me anymore. I did not have an unhappy childhood for the most part. Lots of good memories. I just didn't realize that my father was a "control" person until I got out of there and into a marriage that was more controlling. My dad did lots of things with us kids, and encourage alot of "independence" in a way, I had a horse that I was required to pay for and feed and take care of, I worked/babysat and then a regular job after school for the expenses, didn't run with the wrong crowd or get into trouble because my "free time" was structured and I didn't realize how much.
Wasn't beaten, starved, physically abused, worked as a slave for the family..... I had it good in many ways.
So, I am not trying to paint a horrible picture.... I just learned after the divorce alot more about myself.... and what also not to do to make my son's life difficult with his relationship with his father. I am saddened that @Ridgetop is seeing such a rigid hard ridiculously controlling attitude from her dd, and just wanted to share the "being there for the grandchildren " if it comes to that. Believe me, it is hard to not say anything about the person you don't agree with.... and it hurts that it is a person that you raised and that you start to wonder and question how this person could have this sort of attitude.... the thing that scares me is the wanting to just put them on medication, instead of more testing for a possible problem. That would have me jumping up and down....
DA#N all these drugs pumped into kids systems that sometimes a good hard outside playing til you are just tuckered out is what they need.
Wasn't beaten, starved, physically abused, worked as a slave for the family..... I had it good in many ways.
So, I am not trying to paint a horrible picture.... I just learned after the divorce alot more about myself.... and what also not to do to make my son's life difficult with his relationship with his father. I am saddened that @Ridgetop is seeing such a rigid hard ridiculously controlling attitude from her dd, and just wanted to share the "being there for the grandchildren " if it comes to that. Believe me, it is hard to not say anything about the person you don't agree with.... and it hurts that it is a person that you raised and that you start to wonder and question how this person could have this sort of attitude.... the thing that scares me is the wanting to just put them on medication, instead of more testing for a possible problem. That would have me jumping up and down....
DA#N all these drugs pumped into kids systems that sometimes a good hard outside playing til you are just tuckered out is what they need.