Promise Acre: Our Journey

[promiseacres]

So yesterday we got two lines of gates/fence down behind the corn crib.
We also found out Mom went and got married again... we see a lawyer Thursday. This was out of the blue and has blown us away. And we really don't know this guy (she's known him for a while but some reason only became interested in her in last couple of months, after she sold her place of course) Mom says she'll sign a quit deed on the farm, I don't know if he needs too also... the lawyer should be able to tell us. Plus get her estate figured out... We're all worried as this has just been strange and very quick. They started dating last month as far as I know and we only have met him once. If both need to and they won't sign the quit deed, we'll sell the farm. Mom felt no need for a prenuptial and feels that it's all ok. But he's got some sketchy relatives... IDK Should of known better..

 

[Mike CHS]

That situation would have me concerned. I hope it works out for all.

 

[farmerjan]

WOW, that was a real HOLY S#@T surprise. I do applaud your getting a lawyer appointment and getting this solved now. It is a real shame that she didn't feel the sense of fairness to tell you at least; or to make sure with some sort of a prenup that she should protect you after all the months of back and forth you all went through with this. It would be a shame to sell the farm since you all really seem to enjoy it and have been working so hard to get it into shape to be able to have a life there. One thing, since she has chosen to marry and not inform you, please protect yourselves. And to realize you are NO LONGER RESPONSIBLE FOR HER OR HER ANIMALS. Hard as that is to do, you do not need to keep on "taking care of things for her".

Thoughts and prayers for you.

 

[Bruce]

We also found out Mom went and got married again

Wow, that is really scary. I'm also glad you are getting a lawyer involved. All of a sudden there is another finger in the pot. I hope it all works in your favor and quickly.

 

[Baymule]

@farmerjan beat me to it. How funny that both of us first knee-jerk reaction is HOLY SH!T! What farmerjan said times 1,000. Have you got over the stunned shock and gotten really pi$$ed yet?

 

[CntryBoy777]

I back ya 120%.....I wouldn't have wasted time in getting to a lawyer, either...if I'd taken care of our situation....it would be much different now...no need to wait to get "blindsided" anymore, than ya have already.......

 

[promiseacres]

Shock is over.... now alternative between insanely pissed and sincerely hurt. When Mom decided it was time to move and was looking for a place near family I decided we could help her... we all love horses and despite a rocky relationship I was ready to forgive and forget. When we bought the farm men was the last thing on her mind she told us.... which was important to me... when I was 8 she married the man whom I still have nightmares about.... she all but refused to protect us girls.(her farm was more importal to her)..it could have been worse...but he should have gone to jail as a pediphile... he is dead. He was husband #3....now she's on #5.... I told her my kids were the priority... we are probably are more protective of them because of my background... men and women have to earn my trust with my kids.... we will give it up if we don't feel right about the situation. Obviously it's her life but I need more time and some respect in this.... DH and I are 100% in agreement, unless the farm only has our names on it we are done.

 

[farmerjan]

She is your mom, so you will always have a love for her even if you don't like her some/most of the time. However, I am in complete agreement with both you and your DH. Your name only or you need to be out of it. And you can love/care/dislike/hate her from a distance because it is obvious that she is unable to be fair and do right by you. Accept it as HER FAILING, not yours, and just put the distance between you to keep your family in a good place mentally, emotionally and FINANCIALLY. It is time to let her sink or swim on her own. You are not responsible for her, she is supposed to be a mature adult. She has made her choice, now do what is right for your own family. And from here on, DO NOT LET YOURSELVES become a crutch for her again and do not get into any other type of financial situation with her. Cut the apron strings and live your own life with your DH and kids.......don't take care of her animals, don't be a "safety net" for her horses or her stuff.....

 

[Mini Horses]

Gosh, knew about all the issues with "getting" this place, selling hers, etc. Just found this thread & update. I'm floored at the last "mom got married"!!!


I was catching up with all the progress, enjoying the ride and then -- WHAM. A cliffhanger. I hope it all gets resolved really fast.

 

[Baymule]

I totally agree with the above.