rachels.haven's Journal

[Bruce]

When do we get pictures of the new place?
hint hint

 

[farmerjan]

Last week if work for DH. He's rebecoming himself again as he shrugs off the rocks they've been piling on. Someone even tried to pull the "you HAVE to get this working before you go" trick. Nope. They mucked up and neglected that team of contractors' project up enough for themselves then handed it to their overloaded emergency engineer for life support and emergency repairs and now it's their own screwy long term mess and not this super programmer's problem. The kicker is they're hiring *another team if contractors* to replace my one DH. They're not going to be able to replace him unless they hire at least 4 GOOD senior programmer's, and nobody good wants to come into this toxic workplace, imagine that.
A realtor came. Vet appts scheduled. Favorite goat transporter I've used before booked and paid for. Guinea pigs rehomed. Farm sitter arranged. Ducks have a home to go to.
We are going down after close to put up pens/stalls in the barn and get ready. Then we will come back here for 4 days as the movers and animal transporter comes. House dogs and cats go with us in the van. Bailey gets to go with her herd. My parents will receive them if needed. Making calls to book the human movers (relocation company hires them, but we do the leg work).

Amusingly enough my brief stint eating normally and not avoiding wheat products has made me start losing hair from all the itching. It's thinner than it was. Guess I'd better ALWAYS follow the rules or everyone will know I have bad self control, lol.

I. Didn't. Get. To. Eat. A. Doughnut. Excuse me while I go eat ice cream or one of all the hundreds of other junk food options I've got while eyeing the other side of the fence like a goat. Boo hoo. First world dork problems.

Close is the 29th. The prep trip is the 4th.
Right? Right.

Oh. And I found round bales of 2nd and 3rd cutting only a few minutes from the house that the guy says he can bring his tractor to unload.

 

[Baymule]

Finally. It is upon you and y'all are moving to a place and a job for your DH that is a much better and happier place. Couldn't be happier for you. Takes FOUR people to replace your husband? And they wonder why he is leaving? Truly the Land of the Stupid. How wonderful for him to get away from there.

 

[rachels.haven]

Finally. It is upon you and y'all are moving to a place and a job for your DH that is a much better and happier place. Couldn't be happier for you. Takes FOUR people to replace your husband? And they wonder why he is leaving? Truly the Land of the Stupid. How wonderful for him to get away from there.

Yes, at least four people. Upper level engineers kept quitting, and managers kept asking him to take over all of the leaving people's responsibilities over and over. And when they hired new people they just gave them new responsibilities and had DH keep those of the people that quit. Makes me mad. He could do it, but it cost him (dearly on personal, family, career growth, and personal ambitions fronts). Very inconsiderate to say the least.

 

[Bruce]

Yep, some bosses/businesses will take advantage as much and as long as the beleaguered employee allows it.

 

[Baymule]

Well now they can just deal with it.

 

[rachels.haven]

That's where a good manager would come in. But this org doesn't appear to value those.

And yes, they did totally have problems with it. DH had to meet with 5 levels of management above him so they could each beg/bribe him to stay. It sucked. No means NO. If they wanted him to stay they should have been more respectful of his humanity earlier.

 

[Baymule]

If they wanted him to stay they should have been more respectful of his humanity earlier.

This. Good for your husband for getting out of there.

 

[rachels.haven]

The sad thing is that the manager we had in Detroit that encouraged a healthy work life balance, felt secure in his own position, didn't want to grow his own career, and said no to anyone trying to throw trash tasks on his guys, and recommended DH leave the team because that office was so small he didn't think DH or anyone could grow his career there is still working for the company, I believe he moved across the country, but his team either followed him or became remote...my husband's friends are still working for him, have had very little turnover even during the covid shuffles, and he was somehow eventually able to get a few of them promoted in the last three years despite the guy doubting he could.

Moral of the story is if you have a good manager and they tell you the office is too small for them to be able to help you with career goals, probably ignore them because at this company a good manager is valuable...and sometimes you can squeak by and grow anyway.

But I have really nice goats and we've had good medical care here, and DH's meticulous coding has become even more meticulous and that's a good thing...I guess.

Here's to a hopeful future.
Potato.

 

[Baymule]

Sometimes you just have to take that leap of faith and step out there. it hasn't been pleasant, but there are bright spots and now y'all are going to a much happier place.