Ragdollcatlady's Just a Little Patch of Weeds Farm journal

[ragdollcatlady]

The goats will go with me. He has 5 acres and is willing to make room for them. He is willing to help with animal chores.... not sure how to handle that offer, but I am willing to get used to that.

Jobs.... I will most likely be out of my field. Just not alot of options there, but I am flexible. Any job that pays the bills will do.

 

[ragdollcatlady]

And his mom is in Bakersfield... I was in the hot seat first!

We didn't visit with my family until Sunday.

And he is a computer guy.... He is smarter than all my smarty pants electronics.

 

[Bruce]

We are officially off the market. Sorry everyone else!

Time to cancel that online dating site membership

Here is Alaska in Alaska

Must be summer, only a 1/4" of snow.

And his mom is in Bakersfield... I was in the hot seat first!

But, as WE all would have told you would be the case, you came through just fine! Besides, he was in the hot seat first, most everyone in the front at work got to evaluate him before you even knew he was there. And then most everyone else you work with before you left. Seems like you alternated being in the seat.

 

[ragdollcatlady]

True!

And the memberships were cancelled awhile ago.... One evening after we had said goodnight already, he messaged to tell me he was cancelling his membership, that he was done looking. Earlier the same day, someone had asked me about other prospects on the site besides him, and I had just shrugged my shoulders saying I didn't care, wasn't interested, and that I was just done looking... yep done looking. I liked this one.... so we were on the same page at the same time. The next day he had cancelled his.... but they wont let me cancel mine, I paid for the whole year and met him after just a couple weeks. They did let me set the account to "not auto renew" so I let him know and went through the questions saying I found someone on their site, hoping they would suspend it. A few weeks later Alaska seemed to be a bit unsure, so I asked if he wanted me to erase what I could from the site, and he did. I couldn't erase all of it, but did erase all the subjects they allowed, took down the pics and I wrote that I found someone.... apparently they still were allowing my profile to be seen, as some had seen it just hours before that, I just wasn't getting notifications.

The good thing about the dating site is that it lets you prescreen alot of pertinent info, if everyone is being open, honest and up front about stuff. We were both searching for the same thing and hit the questions and interview part of meeting pretty head on. And alot of things my coworkers specifically wouldn't like in their own relationships.... are things I understand and appreciate.... we are very compatible. I couldn't have found a better match.

 

[ragdollcatlady]

One more thing... he was concerned enough about my comfort while travelling, knowing that I get motion sick very easily and the flight to Alaska will be quite an "adventure" for me, he booked me first class. I could get used to someone taking care of me like that.

I wont be able to take ginger beer with me on the flight, though that did help alot this last weekend with all the hours in the truck. Ill take candied ginger with me and Ill be sure to get my normal dose of caffeine before leaving. I might try some patches too. I dislike drugs alot and dramamine does not work, but he wants me to try something called Bonine.... if anyone has better options than drugs, I would appreciate any input. He bought the sea bands for me so I already tried those again too.

My usual MO for flying is to just curl up against the wall, try to keep to myself and try not to vomit on everyone around me.

 

[frustratedearthmother]

What an exciting adventure ya'll are embarking on! Hope it works out for you both!

 

[Latestarter]

I couldn't erase all of it, but did erase all the subjects they allowed, took down the pics and I wrote that I found someone.... apparently they still were allowing my profile to be seen, as some had seen it just hours before that, I just wasn't getting notifications.

I may have a jaded viewpoint, but it seems to me there are many more men searching than women. They don't want to lose a pretty woman from the site (you) as the more they have "available" the more men will sign up (pay) for their service. Some sites are worse than others. Some use pictures from women that haven't been present for a LONG time...

 

[Bruce]

Bonine and dramamine are similar, just different drugs. You might try some for car travel before using it on the plane. Maybe it will work better for you.

Yep, no Reed's Ginger Beer on the plane, but they usually have plain ginger ale.

The good thing about the dating site is that it lets you prescreen alot of pertinent info, if everyone is being open, honest and up front about stuff.

Oh, I suppose SOME are open and honest up front. We know of at least 2 The standard generalization (of which I have no personal experience) is people are more likely to post things they THINK others want in a person than the reality of themselves. "Like long romantic walks on the beach (until we are together then it is Sunday Night football and Monday night football and ...)" Maybe that is just "urban legend".

There is nothing like "in a relationship", "looking" or whatever they are called on Facebook (I gather, no experience here either)?

 

[ragdollcatlady]

Well alot of guys likely passed by my profile since I did say on there that I sometimes smell like a goat (so romantic right??? ) and dont always make it to dinner cause I have to help deliver babies. My socks not matching and hair a mess likely ruled out a bunch more, if you want well groomed and put together... I am SOOO not the right person for you!.... and then my lack of ability/desire to travel both because of the farm and because of motion sickness surely ran off a bunch, it does seem they all want to travel, alot..... What I did see was alot of guys saying the same thing, all want to travel, go out, have a great time... noone wanting a nice relatively mellow life (I know!!! but i can want what I want, even if I can't have it!!!) with family and farm as the center of that life. A ton of people are looking for flings or temporary entertainment.... They were usually pretty easy to figure out after one or 2 conversations.... Posting or promising things someone wants but isn't going to get is just a silly waste of time.

A couple nights ago, I had just sent Alaska a good night message and was heading to bed, when DS3 came out of his room wanting to talk. We had a really nice heart to heart. He said some really nice things about me, that he would describe me as happy, reliable, honest, nice, wholesome. He likes that I offer solutions and I'm willing to help if I can, that I really care about those in my life. He also said that I am genuine. I guess I must be doing something right if my young adult kid sees me like that! Our conversation covered some things he was concerned about (read 'his dad') and we also talked about Alaska, he really likes him, is glad he got to meet him and is very happy for me and says that I deserve to have someone that treats me well. We discussed the other boys opinions of the situation and just how DS3 is doing and feeling in general. He came home to me depressed after living with his dad, and is finally coming back out of his shell, getting back to being himself. I am happy that he is comfortable coming to me to talk when he wants to. And I am happier that he is finally happy again.

 

[Bruce]

awwwww