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I read a report the other day that stated their study showed over 1/3 of the cars in the US, at any given time, were driving around with either a check engine, SES, or low tire pressure light on, and I believe it.
And that nitrogen thing in tires was the biggest X#&^@*!! ever foisted upon this country's consumers.
 

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Something is bothering me. I have had people over the years say they are my friend, but then if I dont call them, or do something for them, they dont call me or anything. I have had people Ive kept their dogs for them, say, oh, we will always be freinds, but they dont call. Im always the one who calls. So I stop calling because its a two way street. To me, a true friend is someone who at least makes the effort to keep in touch, even if its a couple months or years. I mean, why is it me that always has to call? Yesterday, I texted a girl I used to work with at another place. We used to meet for lunch and all after I quit. Lately, whenever Ive texted her, she doesnt answer back. It hurts, you know? Makes me wonder if Im doing something wrong, since nobody seems to want to keep in touch with me or even answer me back and say, hey, Im busy.

Ok, now back to your regurlarly scheduled program...............
 

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I've had friends like that too. So they are no longer my friends, they never were to start with, so why bother? Most people seem to fall into that category. We moved here 3 years ago, made new friends and have met some great people.

I wouldn't worry about it too much, lots of people are busy and wrapped up in their own lives. Friends are added and dropped as their needs at the moment are changing.

My grandfather told me when I was young, "If you have one true friend in your lifetime, you are lucky."
 

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My grandfather told me when I was young, "If you have one true friend in your lifetime, you are lucky."
I agree!

@Rammy I understand how you feel but don't let that bother you too much. I have "friends" like that too, if I don't call or text them, I don't hear from them at all. So eventually we stop communicating. Oh well, life goes on. I have a friend that once in a while she will say hi, or I will say hi with a quick text but that's about it.
 

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My grandfather told me when I was young, "If you have one true friend in your lifetime, you are lucky."

Your grandfather must have gone to the same school that mine did. I was career military and continued the same job (and travel) when I became a civilian. I have had what would be considered great friends but you or they move and life continues but is different. I do have a couple of friends that have been genuine friends since we were all kids and I do feel lucky. Most people have acquaintances that come and go but I have my greatest friend of all time and that is that woman who really made me lucky and became my wife.
 

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Boy could I write several paragraphs on that one, but I'll contain myself and limit it to just a few sentences. I came to realize the same thing years ago and as difficult as it was to accept, I quit calling and staying in touch....there were never any responses to check on me or to find out what was going on.....then, when I had the first heart attack nobody....and I do mean nobody called.....not even family....except for my Mom. So, much of the family was placed with those that were left behind. You are not alone in the treatment and ya sure aren't alone with leaving those behind in the past either.....I look at an individual's actions....not relying on their words.....:hugs
 

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I've had friends like that too. So they are no longer my friends, they never were to start with, so why bother? Most people seem to fall into that category. We moved here 3 years ago, made new friends and have met some great people.

I wouldn't worry about it too much, lots of people are busy and wrapped up in their own lives. Friends are added and dropped as their needs at the moment are changing.

My grandfather told me when I was young, "If you have one true friend in your lifetime, you are lucky."

It just bothers me because Im the type of person if you call me and ask for help, Im right there. But it seems when Im no longer useful to anyone, they forget my phone number. Or I call say, lets get together for this or that, Im busy or dont pick up. Really? I do have one person, who for the most part, helps me when I ask him to, altho lately its been with a grumpy attitude. I tell him its male menapause. But just one person I can call a friend at my age. That kinda sucks.
 

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Your grandfather must have gone to the same school that mine did. I was career military and continued the same job (and travel) when I became a civilian. I have had what would be considered great friends but you or they move and life continues but is different. I do have a couple of friends that have been genuine friends since we were all kids and I do feel lucky. Most people have acquaintances that come and go but I have my greatest friend of all time and that is that woman who really made me lucky and became my wife.

Awwww, you better buy her some roses! Being friends with the person you spend your life with is the best friend you can ever have.
 

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Boy could I write several paragraphs on that one, but I'll contain myself and limit it to just a few sentences. I came to realize the same thing years ago and as difficult as it was to accept, I quit calling and staying in touch....there were never any responses to check on me or to find out what was going on.....then, when I had the first heart attack nobody....and I do mean nobody called.....not even family....except for my Mom. So, much of the family was placed with those that were left behind. You are not alone in the treatment and ya sure aren't alone with leaving those behind in the past either.....I look at an individual's actions....not relying on their words.....:hugs

I know what you mean. Its like, why am I the one to always put in the effort but you cant? True friends to me is someone who at least make the effort. It shouldnt be one sided. I know people come and go. Its sad that no one from your family called when you had your heart attack. I have a friend in NC who has had and does have that happening right now. She is sick but not one person from her family has asked her how shes feeling or if she needs anything. They only call her when they need something from her. Yes, actions speak louder than words. Thats for sure. And if I had your phone number and knew you when that heart attack happened, I would of called. And probably come and help you or your family. Thats what friends do.
 
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