(updated) Need some advice on the right thing to do here........

[ThreeBoysChicks]

Very difficult to mix business with friendship.

Sounds like to me you have done a lot to help her out. I did not see that you signed a contract stating that she was to approve any breeding to the goats you pruchased from her, so I don't think she can add that requirement now.

Me I would not do business with her anymore and move on.

I also think I would hae a conversation with her. It amazes me how harsh persons can be in email. They often times can type something that they would never say to you in person.

 

[that's*satyrical]

I think you should email her back & let her know you don't appreciate being put into the middle of this feud that has nothing to do with you. I'm sure the tone of the email was not set by her feelings for you, but by her feelings for this man. In the email you send back let her know that it is unacceptable to put you in the middle & unless she can separate her feelings for you completely from any previous relationship with this man you are going to have to back away from any more dealings/friendship with her. Give her the chance to see she was wrong & apologize. If it can't be worked out go ahead & get the buck if you want him & sever the relationship. If it can be worked out get the does & discuss with her about the buck before purchasing him. If there is still a disagreement here with the buck she hasn't learned her lesson & you probably need to move on. I also agree about saving all emails just in case. Just having been in the goat world since this past September I am amazed at some of the stories I hear of stupid things people do to others out of jealousy. It just confirms the fact that I like to stay home & avoid most people most of the time However, if I want to continue with goats I kind of have to suck it up a little bit & hope it doesn't eventually happen to me.

 

[redtailgal]

Well, ok then, lol..

I didnt know if there was some sort of etiquette thing that I had missed or what.

WOW, showing is vicious at times, huh?

I'll have a "chat" with my breeder, and let her know where I stand. I'd like to preserve the relationship, as she and I both benefit quite a bit from it , but I dont think I could ever trust her enough to consider her a friend. IF this relationship continues, it will remain strictly business.

Thanks for the advice, I'll be going to my first show on Saturday. If I dont go with my breeder, I 'll go with another boer lady that I met at an ag meeting. Her goats are not as nice as the ones my breeder has, but it will do her good to realize that she is replaceable.

 

[BrownSheep]

You bought the goats with no contract. After that they are no longer HER line they are YOUR line to do with what YOU wish.

Showing can be crazy. I compete with a girl whose coach stands behind the judge and hand signals everything.....It is CRAZY.

 

[aggieterpkatie]

Tell her to kiss it. If she brings up the contract throw it back in her face that she did not provide a rideable horse for you. She has no right to say what buck you can use. I'd rather buy does from this guy anyways, especially if he has the better goats. If she ever calls in the future tell her you'd be happy to work for her prepping goats for show for X amount of dollars per hour.

 

[aggieterpkatie]

And you know what else? People like her seriously piss me off. She acts like the only way he wins at shows is because of a magical unicorn fart feed concoction? Bullcrap. I bet the man works his hiney off culling and striving to breed better and better animals. You can't take a crap animal and feed them unicorn farts and get a show winner. Good feed helps, but it is not the ONLY reason he's winning. Sounds like instead of trying to get a spy to get the feed ration, she needs to put more time and effort into breeding better animals.

 

[daisychick]

Unicorn farts.

 

[ThreeBoysChicks]

And you know what else? People like her seriously piss me off. She acts like the only way he wins at shows is because of a magical unicorn fart feed concoction? Bullcrap. I bet the man works his hiney off culling and striving to breed better and better animals. You can't take a crap animal and feed them unicorn farts and get a show winner. Good feed helps, but it is not the ONLY reason he's winning. Sounds like instead of trying to get a spy to get the feed ration, she needs to put more time and effort into breeding better animals.

Preach it sister!!!! Halleluah!!!!

 

[redtailgal]

LOL the secret ingredient! Unicorn farts!

love it!

 

[that's*satyrical]

LMAO @ Aggie. Oh so true!!!