Ragdollcatlady's Just a Little Patch of Weeds Farm journal

[babsbag]

I swear by the Breeze litter system. No smell and no cat litter dust, that is the best part. I have two of them, I scoop once every other day and change the pad weekly. It is hard to impress me, but this system did. The pellets are made from zeolite with a wax coating and they last for a long time. I tried washing them and using them over again but decided it wasn't work it.

 

[CntryBoy777]

Ya didn't specifically ask me, but I'll add my 2¢ to the discussion. In any relationship there is compromise, but there are always somethings that aren't....especially as we age and mature. For an example....after I got divorced there wasn't anyway that I'd relocate any further north than Memphis, Tn....I would go east, south, or west but north was out of the question....Joyce is from Michigan, but I told her flat out and upfront and never made any bones about it....if it was a deal-breaker, then we best part ways and go no further with any developing relationship. She was looking to escape Michigan and so things continued and here we are today. I did everything I could to run her off the first 10mnths we spent in a truck driving all over the nation, we ended up getting married in Las Vegas on a run to Los Angeles. You have to make the compromises in your life, but in changing locales you will lose all that ya know.....depression runs rampid in the land where the sun doesn't shine and temps will drive ya crazy. Ya can't grow anything as far as food is concerned and toting water to animals is very tiresome after wks and mnths of it.....not to mention the long list of predators that have to be dealt with....comfortability in life is very important and imo not worth any possible relationship or dream that may or may not exist. Personally, I wouldn't live in California, but would surely consider it before ever even thinking about Alaska.....no matter how "Dreamy" another may sound on the phone.

 

[ragdollcatlady]

I appreciate all the input and opinions, thanks for sharing them.

I do know that I would be out of my element, and having to really learn a whole new lifestyle. I was shocked when talking to my mom, who is terrified that I am even trying this online dating thing, when she said, 'well, you have always preferred dark and cold to the heat and I hear that surrounding yourself with bright colors and lights helps in Alaska... since you like colors you can use that to your advantage ....and besides, I think a change of scenery would be good for you'.... hmmmm trying to tell me something there, mom???? Of course my mother would tell me if she thought it would be wrong for me, that is her job and she knows me pretty well, soooo....

The more I talk to alaska, actual conversations, text, email, and now this video text app that I was super nervous trying out (but yeah I did it!, kind of like Skype, but not in real time), the more I like him. We have discussed some pretty solid topics and where our opinions vary, we aren't generally on totally opposite sides. I can respect someone and have different ideas, ideals, and opinions and it seems like he can too. When I mentioned an issue that is very serious to me, his response was to tell me how he could accommodate my needs. I offered to try anything he had in mind, like ice fishing or whatever, at least once before writing it off... and he suggested twice in case the first time isn't an ideal practice run... I can compromise like that.

Sorry McDreamy... You had your chance! I'm officially over you.

McSteamy, snow + a smokin hot guy = McSteamy, is officially on my wish list!

 

[Bruce]

Yeah but is HE going to come down to YOU for the first face to face??
Does he have family up there?

Sounds like Mom is trying to get rid of you

 

[ragdollcatlady]

A mom trying to get rid of one of her kids.... Never!!! Besides I'm the only girl and an angel..... (blink.... blink.... blink)..... why could she possibly be trying to get rid of me????....

I rescued a kitten the other day and didn't bring it home!!! Yeah!!! One of my coworkers and I got a call about a kitten trapped in an engine a few parking lots over. The guy had tried to call animal control, but apparently due to budget cuts, they are closed for the rest of the year. We said we would try. He wasn't wedged anywhere but was too afraid to come out. It took about 20 minutes, but I finally managed to get a leash around him, pull him out quickly and scruff him. He was fine with just a few singed whiskers. Apparently the guy lives about half hour away and heard the crying on his way to work that morning. He was crying the whole time we were trying to get him out. The kitten belongs to a neighbor of his, so we loaned him one of my carriers and he just brought it by work with Starbucks cards for my coworker and I, to thank us for helping.

 

[goatgurl]

I hope you don't mind one more opinion. if this mcsteamy is the one and he thinks you're the one too then have him come down and meet your family and critters before you ever think of going up there. up in his part of the world you will be all alone, without back up or a safety net. more than one woman has gone to meet someone only never to be seen or heard from again. you have children and family to think of and if him making the trip first is a deal breaker then you don't need that deal. please stay safe

 

[Bruce]

A mom trying to get rid of one of her kids.... Never!!! Besides I'm the only girl and an angel..... (blink.... blink.... blink)..... why could she possibly be trying to get rid of me????....

I was kidding of course!!
Maybe she would like to vacation in Alaska and figures if you were there she could do it on the cheap.

 

[ragdollcatlady]

I hope you don't mind one more opinion. if this mcsteamy is the one and he thinks you're the one too then have him come down and meet your family and critters before you ever think of going up there. up in his part of the world you will be all alone, without back up or a safety net. more than one woman has gone to meet someone only never to be seen or heard from again. you have children and family to think of and if him making the trip first is a deal breaker then you don't need that deal. please stay safe

Just the other day he actually mentioned looking at times to come down in february or march.

Maybe she would like to vacation in Alaska

She liked the pics of the northern lights he sent me...

Oh and he has family here in California.

 

[babsbag]

Why would he never leave Alaska? My son went up there for a visit many years ago (can there be many years ago when you are only 33?) anyways...he wanted to live there until he visited. He said it was depressing, poverty everywhere. You had the rich and the very very poor, no in between. His talk of Alaska living ended with one trip.

Have you ever lived in the snow?

 

[ragdollcatlady]

Some of the things he loves are the clean air, water, beauty, serenity. He enjoys the people in his small town area. His health has improved since he moved there. It's his peaceful place.

I haven't lived in snow, I also have never lived so far from my family. We discussed some of those concerns, possible solutions, but some I may just have to learn or try, to see if I can or will do them. Of course I anticipate making a couple trips up there before commiting to forever, to see what the area is like, look for local jobs, resources for my animals...

One picture of his property.