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Ridgetop
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Island will be large - about 3' x 7' and need to be secured since it will have a12" eating area on one side. However, it won't take that much to install and remove since I will not install the toe kicks until after we remove the tile and refloor the kitchen. We might not put the final countertop on until then either. DH used to say, "Some people rearrange furniture, my DW rearranges walls". LOL For now DS1 is putting the 24" and 27" cabinets together and will put a plywood top on them for a temp countertop.
DD2 and DSIL2 had their final custody hearing today. Although the investigator said that they were the better parents he said that the child should stay with the mother and stepfather (who showered naked with her) because it would "be easier for DD2 and DSIL2 to make trips to visit since they had an open and stable family situation and could stay with relatives when visiting". The evaluator only interviewed 2 people and assuming that the extended family could just drop everything and put up a visiting family of 4 whenever they wanted to visit their child, is infuriating. Too bad we are such a good family, we should have said that DD2's siblings would not allow her in their homes when she visited. LOL Maybe they would have been able to take Maisie to Texas. What is worse is that Maisie wanted to live with DD2 and DSIL2 instead of her birth mother. When Maisie is with the birth mother and stepfather, she must call the stepfather "daddy" and is punished if she calls her real dad "daddy". She must call him by his given name and is not allowed to talk about her times with DD2 and DSIL2. Sick people.
The judge was very sympathetic to them and decided that there had been so much upheaval in Maisie's 6 years that moving her out of state would be detrimental to her. I know they are devastated by losing Maisie. On the other hand, they have her for ALL school holidays, and can have as much visitation as they want. DD2 gets the same visitation access as DSIL2. The birth mother was really awful about keeping up with schoolwork, did no dental or medical visits, and would not communicate with DD2 and DSIL2 about any Maisie related issues. It will certainly be financially freeing for them since they do not have to pay child support - the birth mother makes a good salary, and since Annabel is autistic, she is considered disabled, and the judge took that into consideration when making his financial ruling. DD2 says that it is a relief to be finished with the court thing since they have been involved in it for over 5 years and have spent tens of thousands on court and attorney costs. The stress on them with the birth mother has really been awful. DD2 and DSIL2 agreed that they need to move out of California for financial reasons and if the court wouldn't let them take Maisie they would not fight anymore. Our whole family is upset by the ruling since we feel that Maisie has a more stable life with DD2. In 2 years the judge will revisit the ruling and if the birth mother has not kept them totally informed about the child, or causes any problems with visitation, they will be able to take her. Or if they return to live in California the joint custody ruling resumes.
Bryan texted that he will be installing the generator tomorrow. He asked if we had WiFi now since he needed it to hook up something in the generator. I hope I can remember the WiFi passwords. I think I put them in my phone.
DS1 said he will start working on cleaning out the tool shed tomorrow. He has to pull everything out and move shelves around. Then he has to install the cabinets. The shed walls are lined with plywood, and he says that the shed doesn't get as hot as he expected it would. It is possible that Pete MacDonald did some kind of insulation when he put up the shed. DS1 said that he will need help putting the heat barrier up on the rafters so we will do that this winter. We definitely need to put the cabinets and shelves in and get the big tool chest and work bench (with storage drawers) in so we can get the tools unloaded from the boxes. When we do the heat barrier, we can look at putting an exhaust fan in the gable, or a small AC in the shed.
Looking out my bathroom window here is very sad. No corrals, no sheep, mule, horse, dogs, just bare ground out there. I used to love looking out first thing in the am to see the sheep, dogs and animals. Now nothing. In 2 weeks I have only heard the coyotes sing once.
So strange. On the other hand, sitting on the patio, surrounded by children's toys, sidewalk chalk on the pavement, etc. I could almost hear the house smiling. We renovated this house and built the patio for kids and entertaining. I am happy that DS2 and DDIL2 will be entertaining her large family here and having toddlers and kids running around again.
Pre-op with knee surgeon tomorrow. More blood draws probably and the bruises from the last 2 visits haven't gone away yet. LOL More packing to do and the last 2 pieces of furniture to take to DD1's house.
DD1 came over today and when DH told her we might sell Gammy's rug she was very upset. She said that she wanted the rug and would go home and measure for a place to put it. DH told her that we were sending the rug out for cleaning and when DH said that she could pay for the cleaning fee, she hit the roof. She said that she shouldn't have to pay the cleaning fee since we got it dirty! ??? What? The rug has been in a formal living room with baby gates to keep out dogs and small chidren. It is only being cleaned because we are taking it up to store it. To put it mildly, DH was not happy with her. When she got home, she texted that it would fit between the small formal living room through her large open dining room to the family room. That area is a walkway and the rug would be under the dining table for family holidays and have all the traffic from the exit to the pool across to the bedroom hallway and kitchen. Not a good location for the rug. DH is really pissed about her rude refusal to pay a $200 cleaning fee when she would be getting a Persian rug worth thousands! If the guy makes a good offer, we will sell it. I wish DH hadn't mentioned selling it since DD1 will harp on it but too bad. We will also sell the Chinese rug. It's not as valuable as the Sharouk, but was valued at $10K. DH needs a tractor more than DD1 needs our rug. We won't get an offer at full value, but depending on what he offers, we will see. If the offer is too low the rug may stay in the Connex, it certainly won't go to DD1 after that attitude! DH is really peeved.
Island will be large - about 3' x 7' and need to be secured since it will have a12" eating area on one side. However, it won't take that much to install and remove since I will not install the toe kicks until after we remove the tile and refloor the kitchen. We might not put the final countertop on until then either. DH used to say, "Some people rearrange furniture, my DW rearranges walls". LOL For now DS1 is putting the 24" and 27" cabinets together and will put a plywood top on them for a temp countertop.
DD2 and DSIL2 had their final custody hearing today. Although the investigator said that they were the better parents he said that the child should stay with the mother and stepfather (who showered naked with her) because it would "be easier for DD2 and DSIL2 to make trips to visit since they had an open and stable family situation and could stay with relatives when visiting". The evaluator only interviewed 2 people and assuming that the extended family could just drop everything and put up a visiting family of 4 whenever they wanted to visit their child, is infuriating. Too bad we are such a good family, we should have said that DD2's siblings would not allow her in their homes when she visited. LOL Maybe they would have been able to take Maisie to Texas. What is worse is that Maisie wanted to live with DD2 and DSIL2 instead of her birth mother. When Maisie is with the birth mother and stepfather, she must call the stepfather "daddy" and is punished if she calls her real dad "daddy". She must call him by his given name and is not allowed to talk about her times with DD2 and DSIL2. Sick people.
The judge was very sympathetic to them and decided that there had been so much upheaval in Maisie's 6 years that moving her out of state would be detrimental to her. I know they are devastated by losing Maisie. On the other hand, they have her for ALL school holidays, and can have as much visitation as they want. DD2 gets the same visitation access as DSIL2. The birth mother was really awful about keeping up with schoolwork, did no dental or medical visits, and would not communicate with DD2 and DSIL2 about any Maisie related issues. It will certainly be financially freeing for them since they do not have to pay child support - the birth mother makes a good salary, and since Annabel is autistic, she is considered disabled, and the judge took that into consideration when making his financial ruling. DD2 says that it is a relief to be finished with the court thing since they have been involved in it for over 5 years and have spent tens of thousands on court and attorney costs. The stress on them with the birth mother has really been awful. DD2 and DSIL2 agreed that they need to move out of California for financial reasons and if the court wouldn't let them take Maisie they would not fight anymore. Our whole family is upset by the ruling since we feel that Maisie has a more stable life with DD2. In 2 years the judge will revisit the ruling and if the birth mother has not kept them totally informed about the child, or causes any problems with visitation, they will be able to take her. Or if they return to live in California the joint custody ruling resumes.
Bryan texted that he will be installing the generator tomorrow. He asked if we had WiFi now since he needed it to hook up something in the generator. I hope I can remember the WiFi passwords. I think I put them in my phone.
DS1 said he will start working on cleaning out the tool shed tomorrow. He has to pull everything out and move shelves around. Then he has to install the cabinets. The shed walls are lined with plywood, and he says that the shed doesn't get as hot as he expected it would. It is possible that Pete MacDonald did some kind of insulation when he put up the shed. DS1 said that he will need help putting the heat barrier up on the rafters so we will do that this winter. We definitely need to put the cabinets and shelves in and get the big tool chest and work bench (with storage drawers) in so we can get the tools unloaded from the boxes. When we do the heat barrier, we can look at putting an exhaust fan in the gable, or a small AC in the shed.
Looking out my bathroom window here is very sad. No corrals, no sheep, mule, horse, dogs, just bare ground out there. I used to love looking out first thing in the am to see the sheep, dogs and animals. Now nothing. In 2 weeks I have only heard the coyotes sing once.
So strange. On the other hand, sitting on the patio, surrounded by children's toys, sidewalk chalk on the pavement, etc. I could almost hear the house smiling. We renovated this house and built the patio for kids and entertaining. I am happy that DS2 and DDIL2 will be entertaining her large family here and having toddlers and kids running around again. Pre-op with knee surgeon tomorrow. More blood draws probably and the bruises from the last 2 visits haven't gone away yet. LOL More packing to do and the last 2 pieces of furniture to take to DD1's house.
DD1 came over today and when DH told her we might sell Gammy's rug she was very upset. She said that she wanted the rug and would go home and measure for a place to put it. DH told her that we were sending the rug out for cleaning and when DH said that she could pay for the cleaning fee, she hit the roof. She said that she shouldn't have to pay the cleaning fee since we got it dirty! ??? What? The rug has been in a formal living room with baby gates to keep out dogs and small chidren. It is only being cleaned because we are taking it up to store it. To put it mildly, DH was not happy with her. When she got home, she texted that it would fit between the small formal living room through her large open dining room to the family room. That area is a walkway and the rug would be under the dining table for family holidays and have all the traffic from the exit to the pool across to the bedroom hallway and kitchen. Not a good location for the rug. DH is really pissed about her rude refusal to pay a $200 cleaning fee when she would be getting a Persian rug worth thousands! If the guy makes a good offer, we will sell it. I wish DH hadn't mentioned selling it since DD1 will harp on it but too bad. We will also sell the Chinese rug. It's not as valuable as the Sharouk, but was valued at $10K. DH needs a tractor more than DD1 needs our rug.
We won't get an offer at full value, but depending on what he offers, we will see. If the offer is too low the rug may stay in the Connex, it certainly won't go to DD1 after that attitude! DH is really peeved.
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