Bruce's Journal

[Rammy]

Im glad I never had kids. I was taught also you worked for what you wanted. It wasnt going to be handed to you. I agree the daughter should fork over the difference. Bruce shouldnt have to. Its her car, her accident. Maybe if she starts owning up to her responsabilities, she will be more careful in the future. I also paid for my own car and insurance. Parents told me its your car, your responsibility.

 

[newton the goat]

Nice, I guess, to know that I'm not alone. And the leaving them money thing, I've already thought about an ever decreasing %age with the rest going to a charity or two. Of course it goes to DW if I croak first so I suppose she could give them whatever is left when she dies.

Im sorry to read about your problems with your DD's. I hope they one day are able to see you for the awesome person you are. Because so far they are missing out. Im glad your DD who went off the road is ok... and i hope your able to get through to her. If i ever said something like the whole "force you DW to take her to work on sunday" to my dad i wouldnt be here right now as my father would likely beat my ass for the mere suggestion of him "obeying" like a dog would take commands. I was one of the lucky few of my generation raised with the mindset i have and it astounds me to hear people saying **** like that. My dad if i had three accidents would have taken back his car long ago...he would expect me to take responsiblity no matter what no excuses.. sure he would cover me if i was low on cash but i would be expected to pay him back asap but thats just his parenting style and not everyone would agree with him. when i accidentally backed into my great aunts brand new car i was expected to pay every penny of that as soon as the bill touched my fingers. What i mean is though i probably dont have a right to comment is if you pay when shes working she will always rely on you. Im not saying relying on you is bad but if she really doesnt have the money then maybe let her "borrow" with the expectation that she pays it back? Idk if anything i say is outa line i appologize i just hate to see ya going through difficult times with your girls. Good luck!

 

[greybeard]

will they even rent to a 23 Y/O

if they have a credit card they can rent anything around here...

 

[Bruce]

I figure the lack of collision coverage is my fault. We sat with the guy and set it up. She knew nothing about car insurance other than she needed it and I told him (wrong) what we wanted. We will be having an educational session

OK, I have temporarily added her back to our insurance so she can drive my car. I really don't want to spend 1.5 hours twice a day to drive some place I have no need or desire to be.

 

[RollingAcres]

But is she at least going to help pay for some repair expense?

 

[Rammy]

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[B&B Happy goats]

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[Bruce]

Oh yeah she is. She's on the hook for the $1K deductible she WOULD have had if there were collision coverage and everything over the $3,800 the guy said the car would be totaled at. And, of course the $220 for the ticket.

She would have been better off buying the car we looked at Tuesday and buying a portable Nav system. That would have been about $800 less than the estimate to fix hers. That car is 2 years newer, 15K fewer miles and there is some salvage value to her car. Possibly a bit more than salvage if the auto body guy decided he would buy it, fix it and sell it. No labor costs. But not my decision to make, I can only suggest.

 

[Latestarter]

Gotta say Bruce, that is some real shortsightedness on the girl's part... I mean really... So stupid, all over a built in GPS? In case she hasn't heard, there are places like Car Toys, that can make her a built in system that would look stock if that's what she wanted. Newer car? less miles? better shape? (obviously at this point) and less cost involved? What the hell is that girl thinking? and college educated as well... Here's to liberal education! Perhaps you should her a good one?

 

[Rammy]

You have to remember that she is still young and does not have the life experience many of us have. Practicality doesnt factor in with convienence and style. I bet alot of us can say now how we wish we knew then what we know now.