Coffee anyone ?

[farmerjan]

@Cecilia's-herd ; I did not make the comments I made to be negative. I rode regularly until nearly my 8th month, on a very nice well mannered horse ......that was my barrel racing horse.... but who also was not a nut/wound up type of horse. She would carry my little sister safely but when she knew we were going to go for a "real ride" she was ready to GO. For someone to "start"with a horse, being pregnant is not the time. I neglected alot of my horses' time when I was pregnant but more so after my son was born.... I got her when I was 15 at 1 1/2 yrs old. Broke, trained her myself.... I had plenty of riding experience prior to getting "my very own horse". Baby sat and anything I could do so that I could pay for her, feed etc... part of the deal to learn responsibility my parents said. She went through my marriage, pregnancy, baby, divorce, move to Va, son growing up and my many many long hard work hours... lost her when she was 28.....and I was in my 40's....

The thing that you may not realize at 22 is that kids take an inordinate amount of time and energy. I was nearly 20 when I had my son and I was fit and active and he about wore me out...And I used to log in more than 30 hours a week as the neighborhood babysitter... with 2-5 at a time in the evenings...and I had a little sister at 11 so was a big part of her "caregiver" as there were also 2 very active brothers only a few years younger than me that it was all my mom could do to keep up with too......It is a juggling act for the first several years. I took him with me on the horse for short little rides when he was very stable at sitting up and holding on... but he HAD to come first. I went stir crazy at times wanting to go out to the barn, and he was sleeping and knew it was not safe to get too far away. I was an hour away from my parents so no easy "come babysit for 2 hours please" so I could go ride.

I think coaching rugby and doing any and every other physical activity that you can do is great. Up to being careful of the "belly".... so nothing happens that you can possibly prevent. But once the little one is here, your focus will change, as it rightly should. And there will be days that you will want to pull your hair out to have an hour to just talk to another adult in a conversation that actually is in paragraphs and not in 3 word sentences.... That is the world of being a parent. They are the greatest gift and the greatest test of your life.

 

[farmerjan]

And just a little added.... I went riding at my "term due date, " as one of our brittany spaniels got out of her pen and into the several hundred acres woods behind us...to look for her..... and it didn't help to bring on labor.... When we were debating to go to a poultry show on my due weekend... I had a dr appt on Friday and he said, go, there are hospitals in NH if you go into labor... and went to my gf's house to confirm she would feed the chickens at home while we were gone... and promptly slipped and went down 13 narrow steep stairs to the bottom... on my bottom....and nothing... tried the bumpy road ride in the car.... DS was just not in a hurry to be born. Finally after being dialated about 5-6 cm....for over a week, they put me in and induced me....

 

[promiseacres]

Good morning.
Ran over after chores to the farm... power outage due to storm damage again last night. It was back on but I went ahead and filled the coolers with the pork and veggies and brought them home as we had room. That way we don't have to worry about it again. Or if DH and DS get their deer it can be plugged back in. Had a top of a cedar tree come down too, no damage and it wasn't in the road fortunately.
Did get the applesauce all canned last night and and some tomato slices in the dehydrator yesterday. Today it's school and riding lessons, for DD1 AND DS! Excited to see how he does and how he likes it but he wants to show in the 4H with his sister so he needs some lessons.

 

[Cecilia's-herd]

@Cecilia's-herd And... not to burst your bubble further but it's hard to stop at one baby. As soon as they hit 2ish the baby cravings started up for me.
My oldest is 9 and youngest is 3. We are just getting really active in hobbies again. Now we did start kids a good decade later than you and never lived near family. That makes a huge difference in leisure time available.

I genuinely don’t know if we can afford to do it again, money isn’t tight until you spend 100,000 dollars to have a baby

 

[Jesusfreak101]

Wait i thought you where having a home birth.... holy cow who the heck charged you that much. My midwife (granted i live in texas and i know our prices are lower then orher place but still) cost us a total of 4,500.00 with out the discounts she gave us for being return custermers and ect. But thats her normal charge. I spent 4000 for her 100 something on the midwife kit and another 100 on labs and 150 on an ultrasound.... i think if i chose to have a room at the facility it would have been another 3000 or so but no where near what you spent....

 

[Cecilia's-herd]

Wait i thought you where having a home birth.... holy cow who the heck charged you that much. My midwife (granted i live in texas and i know our prices are lower then orher place but still) cost us a total of 4,500.00 with out the discounts she gave us for being return custermers and ect. But thats her normal charge. I spent 4000 for her 100 something on the midwife kit and another 100 on labs and 150 on an ultrasound.... i think if i chose to have a room at the facility it would have been another 3000 or so but no where near what you spent....

Home birth is still the plan! But we did IVF twice, and it’s not getting any cheaper to do so. But I’m great full the technology is around. If not me and my wife probably wouldn’t have a family.

 

[Baymule]

Good morning. Coffee is ready. I'm going to work on the screened in porch today. We acquired some solar panels that were cracked. We were going to get them set up in order to run the freezers in case of power outage. To seal the cracks, you use polyurethane and squeegee it in the cracks to seal it up. But they have sat there, taking up space. Robert took one and got it working, so I'm giving him the rest of them. Also have some odds and ends sheets of paneling and sheetrock in the portable building that I am moving to my son's house, giving him that too. That will clear out the building. There is a chick brooder that I posted on a FB chicken group, that is getting picked up on Friday. Big chunks gone.

 

[promiseacres]

Good morning!
Sounds like things are getting closer to your move @Baymule
Have a meeting then taking youngest to get her "kindergarten" shots....skipped them last year with the covid situation, glad we don't have to follow the school rules on them. Am getting my tetanus updated also.
Planning for our last camping trip of the year, just to the local SP for Halloween weekend. Lots of fun and taking the horses... but that's somewhat bittersweet as Richie needs to stay home. Starting his new supplements, praying they help and his feet bones "fuse" as that will help his comfort level. It's been wet so he's been mostly sound.
Kids riding lesson went well. They had sore legs afterwards... so that's good.

 

[Mini Horses]

Another day of mugginess here. Appears it will last to some degree until next week. Bummer! It's depressing...no sunshine. So. Going to work a couple days.

FedEx has officially told sender. Pkg lost! Another was shipped yesterday. Hope it gets here.

Put the buck out with 5 does yesterday...need to get baby making started.

Guess I'll finish my coffee and get going. Another slow day.

 

[Cecilia's-herd]

Today… hmmm today is storming really hard. Do one wants to get up today. Gotta buy a big birthing tub and package. I just keep telling myself we budgeted for it. Rina kicked Daffy this morning so that was… fun? Drama queen.