Tuesday noon. It was supposed to be showering but now looks like it will be coming in here shortly and not as much as previously forecast. We will take whatever... like we have a choice???
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Sent an email to the lawyer since it turns out I am supposed to be "making an offer" on the Explorer.... legal BS .... and all the "heirs" are supposed to agree to the offer. I said in the email that I was of the understanding that it had already been agreed upon, and that at this point I am making this email stand as my offer...BUT... considering all the recently expressed opinions by my niece, and the other 2 grandchildren, excluding my son who is also a grandchild, about the wanting to go this weekend and that we "rearranged our delivery schedule of the cattle" in order to make it one trip, I was having some second thoughts about the vehicle. If it could not be worked out, then I would withdraw my offer as I do not need the vehicle. This whole thing has become a bone of contention that I am afraid I will blow my top if I go there. DS was impressed with the wording in my email, and that I touched on some of the subjects that the niece alluded to in her email to the lawyer, about the way some things have been done; with my telling what had been discussed and all directly after the funeral and the items that had been taken by several members with full agreement by the family members there. And that the 4 of us "direct descendents" , meaning us 4 children, were all in agreement about everyone being able to make choices about items....before we were enlightened by the contents of the will that left it to the grandchildren and one brother to make decisions...
I told DS that if this drags on, that they can keep the Explorer... we are not making separate trips for all different things... I will go with him the end of the week to take the cattle and go to the house if that is what it comes to. If it gets hung up, then he is going to CT to meet the guy halfway, switch the cattle to their trailer, and come home and he will have the neighbor up there go get the backhoe and take it to his house, once his offer is approved, and the rest of them can clean out the house and just send him the check. My brother has decided to turn in the receipts and log of all that he has done to keep the house and grounds up... and that will be coming out ot the proceeds of the estate... so he will get paid for his time and work, all to the detriment of what everyone's share is. She is costing everyone... so be it. Like my son said, it will be money he didn't have before, so whatever he gets will be a plus, but she is costing all of them and paying the lawyer more... All my brothers' expenses will have to go before the court for approval for payment, so more time and costs...
If I go up and anything gets said, I told DS I would be likely to slap her silly and wind up in jail. I am that pissed over her stupid grandstanding.
Seems that my other brother is going to be able to take his trailer and get the chipper he has put in a bid on, and has a list of things that my Fl niece and sister want... if my sister does not get home from Fl where she went to help the preg niece get things ready for a baby... she is supposed to come home on Wed eve... so no reason why she cannot get up there on Sat.....
If we go up and do this in one trip... we will leave Thurs night/early Fri morning... take the cattle to VT, come back to NH, late Fri aft., go to the house and start getting together the things we want... do more on Sat and then leave early Sun to come home... it is 12 hours... over 750 miles DS said....
Clouding up some outside, my allergy pills finally have kicked in so going outside to do a few things. Need to get the tractor under the carport. I want to get some boxes together... go by the cardboard dumpster where I was getting all the boxes when I moved stuff out of the house....
after the high 80's last weekend....
I know it's stressful, take care and try to relax if/when you can. Thinking about you. 
