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Sunday morning. Been a long couple of days and crazy crazy weather...
After the ice coatings last Sun/Mon and the melting/falling off the trees... we got weather into the 60's and low 70's..... I moved the spider plants out on the deck and they stayed out for 2 days... nights only down to mid 50's and then pouring down rain Thursday night. Brought them in Friday before I went to work as the temps were supposed to drop during the day... and got down to the LOW of 21 Friday night. Totally insane temp swings.
Had my eye dr appt on Thursday and all is good. Went and got the paperwork the farmer had ready at the farm that hasn't tested since last July so I could get started getting things into the computer and spent nearly 2 hours Thurs aft on it. Had the meeting Thurs night.
Left nearly 3 hours early to go test Friday to go by the farm to get the rest of his paperwork done, needing information on cows that I couldn't enter until I had their ID #'s and all. Farmer was supposed to be there by noon.... he calls and was helping a friend unload 5,000 laying hens because that farmer was sick...so I went to the farm I was going to test and set up early and then on to the owner sampler farm.... I got there and did all the milk weights and such... wound up with 25 cows I had no info/ID's on... and he got there just as I was leaving to go back to the farm I needed to test. So after testing the 200 cow herd, made a 3rd trip to the owner sampler farm for the final info/computer stuff.... I had made a list of all the cows I needed the info on and the farmer did actually have everything I needed written down for me.... But I didn't wind up getting home until nearly 10 pm.... it was a long day Friday.
Did some laundry and hung it Sat as it was sunny... but COLD to start at 21 and didn't get up to 50 all day. Very windy too. Did not get alot done on Sat ..... DS called for some info on some calves that were in one field as he was sorting some cattle... and has decided to ship a load on Monday so we will sort this aft.. (Sun) to make sure of what he wants to ship.
DS is having a rough time... GF has decided that she just cannot deal with their relationship, that is has been going from bad to worse ...for her.... for nearly a year.... she decided this last weekend.... and that she needed him to move back to his house.... give her some space as she has to try to get her mental state back to where she can deal with life. She is even talking about letting her daughter move in with the ex-husband...she wants to be friends and still have him maintain a relationship with the kids... he is totally devastated... said he thought that they were doing good considering them going through her breast cancer and all the things that have gone on... her sister is LIVID and said that GF is also hurting the sister's kids since she babysits them and always would take them to the farm to see DS and the little boy(sisters son) absolutely dotes on DS....
So he has had to move everything back to his house... got the last of his clothes last eve and she helped take stuff as she wants it out...
As much as I have never had much use for her.,... he truly loves her and he is just like a lost soul... he has been here to the house a couple of evenings just needing someone to talk to and in tears... he is NOT PERFECT as no one is... but he has gone way beyond anything I knew about with the little things he did for her...
I am so hurt FOR him.... and so mad that I could strangle that B@#@H......the GF sister has told him to come by anytime to her house and see the kids and do things with them there... and the ex-husband has told him that he has appreciated all DS has done with the daughter and to come by his house and see her anytime she is there... The GF needs to be committed and get her life straightened out...
But that is what it is .... DS said he has never felt for anyone like he has with her and even though he knows it may have not been smart... sometimes the heart wants what it wants...he's had a thing for her for over 20 years and they were friends forever... she wants the "friends" part back but she has no consideration for what he really feels for her and yet has allowed this to continue for a "year" that she has been unhappy... WISH to he// and back that they had never gotten "back together" after the first breakup when she cheated on him with her ex-boyfriend 3 years ago....
You hurt for your kids no matter what age they are... It was even worse because she told him this last weekend... Valentine's day was Tuesday, 14th, and his 50th birthday was Thurs 16th... after helping us with the cattle moving the week before....
I am hoping somewhere along the way he can get past the hurt and devastation and get mad... he just kept saying that he didn't see it coming, that he figured they had normal problems like everyone had day to day in a relationship.... that they were solid enough to weather all the little things...
He is struggling and there is nothing I can do to "make it better"....
So they (DS and a buddy) are working on the hay building today for awhile and then we will work on the cattle later this afternoon. He is off work tomorrow for "President's Day" so we will take a load to the one stockyards we go to.... he even said that if getting rid of the farm and animals would make things work he loved her enough to do that but he didn't think it would and then where would he be without everything... and it makes me think about the couple of times here lately that she has made the comments about how she may as well be married to her ex because he was "always" having to do things on the farm.... yet she KNEW all this from the get go... and she told him that she wanted to be able to go places and do things when they got to retirement age and that with the farm he would have to always be doing stuff on the farm.....and that she didn't want to be in debt all her life and he has a sizeable debt with buying doug's farm a year+ ago... I have told him several times when he has talked to me, that they are a very selfish and self centered family... not the mother so much, and the sister has had a different outlook since losing her husband a couple years ago and what she didn't do to try harder to make things work.... but the father and the GF are very much into "ME" and their own wants at the expense of others....and at the total disregard of others feelings..
I just noticed that 2 of the shirts on the clothesline are "loose" so the wind has dislodged them from one of the clothespins... will go out and get them hung back up for now. They ought to be dry to come in later....
Going to be another tough day.... need to get a little paperwork done from the last vet preg check so when DS is asking me questions I can go through the list alphabetically/numerically and find answers quicker than the list from that day that was written as they came up the chute to get checked....
After the ice coatings last Sun/Mon and the melting/falling off the trees... we got weather into the 60's and low 70's..... I moved the spider plants out on the deck and they stayed out for 2 days... nights only down to mid 50's and then pouring down rain Thursday night. Brought them in Friday before I went to work as the temps were supposed to drop during the day... and got down to the LOW of 21 Friday night. Totally insane temp swings.
Had my eye dr appt on Thursday and all is good. Went and got the paperwork the farmer had ready at the farm that hasn't tested since last July so I could get started getting things into the computer and spent nearly 2 hours Thurs aft on it. Had the meeting Thurs night.
Left nearly 3 hours early to go test Friday to go by the farm to get the rest of his paperwork done, needing information on cows that I couldn't enter until I had their ID #'s and all. Farmer was supposed to be there by noon.... he calls and was helping a friend unload 5,000 laying hens because that farmer was sick...so I went to the farm I was going to test and set up early and then on to the owner sampler farm.... I got there and did all the milk weights and such... wound up with 25 cows I had no info/ID's on... and he got there just as I was leaving to go back to the farm I needed to test. So after testing the 200 cow herd, made a 3rd trip to the owner sampler farm for the final info/computer stuff.... I had made a list of all the cows I needed the info on and the farmer did actually have everything I needed written down for me.... But I didn't wind up getting home until nearly 10 pm.... it was a long day Friday.
Did some laundry and hung it Sat as it was sunny... but COLD to start at 21 and didn't get up to 50 all day. Very windy too. Did not get alot done on Sat ..... DS called for some info on some calves that were in one field as he was sorting some cattle... and has decided to ship a load on Monday so we will sort this aft.. (Sun) to make sure of what he wants to ship.
DS is having a rough time... GF has decided that she just cannot deal with their relationship, that is has been going from bad to worse ...for her.... for nearly a year.... she decided this last weekend.... and that she needed him to move back to his house.... give her some space as she has to try to get her mental state back to where she can deal with life. She is even talking about letting her daughter move in with the ex-husband...she wants to be friends and still have him maintain a relationship with the kids... he is totally devastated... said he thought that they were doing good considering them going through her breast cancer and all the things that have gone on... her sister is LIVID and said that GF is also hurting the sister's kids since she babysits them and always would take them to the farm to see DS and the little boy(sisters son) absolutely dotes on DS....
So he has had to move everything back to his house... got the last of his clothes last eve and she helped take stuff as she wants it out...
As much as I have never had much use for her.,... he truly loves her and he is just like a lost soul... he has been here to the house a couple of evenings just needing someone to talk to and in tears... he is NOT PERFECT as no one is... but he has gone way beyond anything I knew about with the little things he did for her...
I am so hurt FOR him.... and so mad that I could strangle that B@#@H......the GF sister has told him to come by anytime to her house and see the kids and do things with them there... and the ex-husband has told him that he has appreciated all DS has done with the daughter and to come by his house and see her anytime she is there... The GF needs to be committed and get her life straightened out...
But that is what it is .... DS said he has never felt for anyone like he has with her and even though he knows it may have not been smart... sometimes the heart wants what it wants...he's had a thing for her for over 20 years and they were friends forever... she wants the "friends" part back but she has no consideration for what he really feels for her and yet has allowed this to continue for a "year" that she has been unhappy... WISH to he// and back that they had never gotten "back together" after the first breakup when she cheated on him with her ex-boyfriend 3 years ago....
You hurt for your kids no matter what age they are... It was even worse because she told him this last weekend... Valentine's day was Tuesday, 14th, and his 50th birthday was Thurs 16th... after helping us with the cattle moving the week before....
I am hoping somewhere along the way he can get past the hurt and devastation and get mad... he just kept saying that he didn't see it coming, that he figured they had normal problems like everyone had day to day in a relationship.... that they were solid enough to weather all the little things...
He is struggling and there is nothing I can do to "make it better"....
So they (DS and a buddy) are working on the hay building today for awhile and then we will work on the cattle later this afternoon. He is off work tomorrow for "President's Day" so we will take a load to the one stockyards we go to.... he even said that if getting rid of the farm and animals would make things work he loved her enough to do that but he didn't think it would and then where would he be without everything... and it makes me think about the couple of times here lately that she has made the comments about how she may as well be married to her ex because he was "always" having to do things on the farm.... yet she KNEW all this from the get go... and she told him that she wanted to be able to go places and do things when they got to retirement age and that with the farm he would have to always be doing stuff on the farm.....and that she didn't want to be in debt all her life and he has a sizeable debt with buying doug's farm a year+ ago... I have told him several times when he has talked to me, that they are a very selfish and self centered family... not the mother so much, and the sister has had a different outlook since losing her husband a couple years ago and what she didn't do to try harder to make things work.... but the father and the GF are very much into "ME" and their own wants at the expense of others....and at the total disregard of others feelings..
I just noticed that 2 of the shirts on the clothesline are "loose" so the wind has dislodged them from one of the clothespins... will go out and get them hung back up for now. They ought to be dry to come in later....
Going to be another tough day.... need to get a little paperwork done from the last vet preg check so when DS is asking me questions I can go through the list alphabetically/numerically and find answers quicker than the list from that day that was written as they came up the chute to get checked....
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SageHill
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Oh geeze. Sorry he's going through this. I think we all saw something like that coming. Still, the heart ache is there.
Baymule
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That’s terrible and good news at the same time. Good that she finally got so selfish and self centered that she told him to get out. Terrible in that this has hurt him deeply and he’s lost.
murphysranch
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I'm very sad for him. To be blindsided is not fair. Its was my hubs did to me back in '18. Blindside stab right in the heart. But we, for the most part, learn to adjust, someday forgive and move on with our lives. Hugs to your son.
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Thank you to everyone.... yes he is really really hurt because he just keeps saying this shouldn't be this way.... and there is nothing I can say to make it better so the best I can do is just listen... he said this is just so "f**king messed up" and I finally said it is because she is an "f**king idiot".... that was better than saying that she is a "f**king stupid 2 bit b@#*h"....
Change of plans for tomorrow, prices dropped off the last 2 weeks, so we are not shipping anything tomorrow... it will come back in a couple weeks as the weather gets nicer... but the prices were still good last Sat at the other stockyards we sell at some so might take a load on Sat... will see how the week goes....
Going to take the car to the co-op to have them do brakes tomorrow and Deb is going to pick me up and we will get something to eat at the local little pizza/sub place next door.
Change of plans for tomorrow, prices dropped off the last 2 weeks, so we are not shipping anything tomorrow... it will come back in a couple weeks as the weather gets nicer... but the prices were still good last Sat at the other stockyards we sell at some so might take a load on Sat... will see how the week goes....
Going to take the car to the co-op to have them do brakes tomorrow and Deb is going to pick me up and we will get something to eat at the local little pizza/sub place next door.
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Hey, the radio program that the @The Old Ram-Australia is on at 6 PM Eastern time Monday Feb 20th.... on the radio station... I get it on the computer.... Braidwood 88.9 I think... check his thread....
Mini Horses
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I feel so badly for your DS. You can't fix this, mom...just no way. Regardless of your own feelings about the relationship (and GF herself), it's obvious this is monumental for him. You're sad and glad at same time, for different reasons. My thoughts are that she'll go thru a couple more guys and never find her Mr Right.
This is going to take a long time to "get over" for him. Doubt he'll become involved with another, ever.
. It may look like some recovery but, it'll smolder forever. All you can do is "be there".... 
This is going to take a long time to "get over" for him. Doubt he'll become involved with another, ever.
. It may look like some recovery but, it'll smolder forever. All you can do is "be there"....
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Ridgetop
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I just hope that she does not come back, make up, and have him go through this all over again! I was hoping that with her helping out at the farm that she was becoming better but this is really lousy behavior. I don't know if counseling would even work to help him understand that she was bad for him since men don't like to share their feelings. Besides lots of men and women love bad people and don't get over them. I am so sorry for him, and even though you didn't like her, I know that you are sorry about this too since it is so heartbreaking for him. I just wish there was something that could be done for him to help get over this.
< for both of you.
