Farmerjan's journal - Weather

[farmerjan]

Thanks... yes, I am sorry because he is so "lost" and nope, he's not going to talk to anyone to get an unbiased outside opinion.... and she has been bad news for him from years ago... but he is an adult and I can't fix it but if she should come back around I will not stay and watch it again. She has done this before and will do it again...

Had a not very good night with the car... got a flat when I had almost gotten to the co-op last night and did not stop to try to change it.... the tire... since 2 others were getting down in tread I told them this morning to just get 4 new ones.... they put the donut spare on to get it in the shop and tear apart for the brakes... going to need new rotors... but they are the originals and it has 210,000 miles on it... so it is what it is. I will keep the others for emergency replacements and the flat one that is torn up will go on the plastic at the silage pile.... Tires should be in tomorrow and they will put them on but this is going to cost me $800-1,000 probably by the time it is done. Then the muffler is another $375 or so.... in 2 weeks I think. 6th of March... and the forester goes in for the new windshield the 1st of March and that is another $375..... good thing the credit cards are paid off...except for the 2 that are 0% interest until Sept or Oct.... I will put this stuff on them for a month, then pay them back off, but it will give me some breathing room for a couple weeks. ALWAYS SOMETHING....

Also, I stopped the forester at the co-op and then when I went out to get in it and start it... nothing....tried it in neutral and park and nothing; so tapped on the starter a couple times and it started so it is hanging which means it is going bad too... but again, that car has 280,000 or so on it, with the new engine.... so to be expected.... And it has to go on the lift to get to the starter by the looks of it... not easy to get to like on the truck... I will drive it until everything else is caught up, keep a stick to tap on it if it does it again... which it might and might not... and then see about getting it in for that. I usually try to spread things out a bit more than this though..... they said it might not do it for another 20 or 100 starts... It started back up in the driveway here....

Temps are all over the place... 31-60 on Sunday but windy... 42-57 today and mostly cloudy and still windy... might hit upper 60's low 70's by Thursday then possible winter mix on Saturday?????

 

[Baymule]

I don’t mind maintenance on vehicles, but I hate break downs. At least you have enough to rotate them around, but it sounds like this time, they are all giving you a hard time. $$$$

 

[farmerjan]

Starting out decent, 43 and some sun and clouds but radar shows a line of clouds/showers coming over around 9 or so then clearing off again. Supposed to be in 60's.

This cold/congestion is about getting to me... I might even go to the Urgent care since the dr office is not accommodating for appts. See no reason to have this "primary care" physician when they won't give you appts within a day or 2 for "urgent" things like feeling sick.....

DS came by with some pants that need some sewing, and I made him a hamburger with the rest of the meat I had taken out and some canned corn for supper, last evening. I ate 2 hrs earlier... He has started "cleaning out" at his house since he says why do we have all this stuff and never take the time to enjoy any of it... reactions I think more than anything but that's fine. He was cleaning out some clothes

His cousin was on the phone last night when he got here and she went on and on about how she wanted to preserve what Grandma and Gramps wanted and all this drivel.... she is the hold out on signing off to get the rest of the estate settled... I got so aggravated listening to her on the speaker phone... he didn't let on that I was listening.. kept trying to get her point across and bringing up stuff that is done and over... and basically has no clue what the 3 of them did by accusing DS and my brother and by association, me, of the stealing from the house... and then tried to make it like she didn't agree with it.... BS denials.... she is such a drama person, as is my sister... kept playing the "family card" and the "legacy of what Grandma and Gramps would have wanted...and that my brother should have been willing to pay for all those expenses out of the joint account he had with my father and not want to get paid back for all the things he had paid out of that account... and DS told her point blank that their uncle had had no intention of billing the estate... which it says in the will that ALL expenses will be paid out of the estate commencing upon their passing.... including the funeral expenses... UNTIL they made the accusations of theft... but weren't sure of what had been stolen...and told her that this constant BS with her and the other 2 cousins just kept dragging this on and on and that it was more money that was going into the lawyer's pocket... she acts like she knows everything, yet has not really read the will and understood that all the creditors are to be paid as the bills are incurred... and why the he// they would not agree to paying the friends that helped with the cleanout and all that... she said she thought that that got paid in the end after the estate was settled and then the beneficiaries paid those things... HELLO... what stupid clueless things to say.... she was still talking about "compromise" with what my brother was billing the estate for... which I told him right after my father passed and all that he was STUPID to not do it back from the beginning... he// if they had hired someone (stranger or a company) to do the lawn mowing and all sorts of things they would have had to pay them... and DS also set her straight on how sick we all got from the house cleaning and that everyone else that had helped had busted their butts... and she kept on and on about how my brother was a control freak just like Gramps and his mother had been and DS agreed but at this point it was LONG SINCE DONE AND OVER.... this needed to be settled and finished...

Supposedly she is driving up in a month or so... talks about not talking to her mother, yet is going up there to visit.... and acted very surprised that us 4 children had been the beneficiaries of the annuity that the lawyer said was not actually part of the estate since it was specifically stated as to disposition.... and that my sister (her mother) had not disclosed to her that each of us received a settlement from that...niece thought we were only going to get the amount specifically stated in the will and the rest of them would be getting the bulk of the estate.... She went on and on that she wanted DS to see her baby when she came up.... I told him after they got off the phone that I would NOT be part of the greeting party and wanted nothing to do with her visit on her way through... sometimes you just have to draw the line and I just cannot deal with her drama queen crap....

So, he finally said he was hanging up the phone and got off. Maybe in time things will get better, but I really do understand more why my mom "retired" to NH and stayed there for years and my father still worked in CT for several years after... I think she also wanted "away" from some of the family BS..... sad that the family has gotten so fractured... but I have friends that I would trust far sooner than some of the family....

Oh well, I am known as the "weird one" for coming south and wanting the farming/animals way of life... it is too much work for far too little return.... and I am not all caught up in all the day to day drama of "life".... guess I am pretty cold hearted and unfeeling....

Sun is coming over the hill, don't know if clouds/weather is coming in from the west. Ate a bowl of cream of wheat and going to get dressed. Take something for this nagging headache too.... Looks nice out and over 50 already.

 

[farmerjan]

I don’t mind maintenance on vehicles, but I hate break downs. At least you have enough to rotate them around, but it sounds like this time, they are all giving you a hard time. $$$$

Yeah, it is just all at once... the windshield and muffler were planned on, and even the brakes were okay... the tires were supposed to be a fall thing. The flat tires have been almost a joke... so many for so many different things... oh well... when you think of how much you rely on them for so much....

 

[Baymule]

Go to an urgent care, get a shot, Zpack and antibiotics. I’m finally getting over my crud.

Too bad about the family. If y’all EVER get it settled, you never have to deal with any of them again.

 

[Mini Horses]

Agree....go get meds, ignore the family. Do your own thing -- they have no clue what life is about.

 

[Ridgetop]

Sounds like she is crazy! She would have received a copy of the will from the attorney and should have read through it. If her mother did not explain all the bequests to her that is hardly your fault, your son's fault, or your brother's fault. In addition, whether expressly provided in the will or not, probate law (and the court) would have required that any debts owed by your father be paid from the estate before anything could be disbursed. Did she really think that the creditors would just be left hanging while she and her cousins walked away with large checks? Sooo aggravating for you to have to listen to this! Sounds like she thought that everything left by your parents would have gone to her and her cousins. Didn't her mother have a chance to take what she wanted for herself and her daughter from the house when you were all working cleaning it out for sale? Seems like all of you had your opportunity to get what you wanted of the personal possessions and furniture. Annuities/insurance are not normally part of the deceased's estate. They are left separately outside of the will by identifying beneficiaries who will inherit the policy or annuity amounts. Insurance and annuities do not go through the will, probate, or end up in the estate unless specifically directed by the policy/annuity owner. If all the cousins are confused over this, or if she is telling them that all the insurance and annuity funds should be included in the residual estate, maybe this is where the problems are originating. I do;t blame you for not wanting to see her.

Car repairs seem to cause us all so much trouble. And $$$

Our truck was supposed to be finished this week, but the repair shop said while the engine is in and connected, they have identified another problem - apparently the horn is not working and whatever thingy controls the horn also controls the air bags, so . . . . We will just have to pick the truck up when we get back to California.

Today we are going to trim the hooves on the last 2 rams. DS1 doesn't want to bring them into the barn (too much trouble), so we will have to string the extension cord into the small catch pen and try to do them there. I thought we were going to load the truck today before it starts to rain but he says he wants to do the rams first since we will do them in the corral. We have the refrigerator repairman coming today and he doesn't want to be on the field if the guy comes. On the other hand, he also doesn't want to load the truck before doing the hooves.
Considering that the rain is supposed to come in this evening, I would think we should load the truck now and do the hooves later (in the barn) since we will be loading on the driveway and will be able to see the repairman arrive. Men are not good planners. I am too tired of men to argue.

 

[Mini Horses]

So how's the sister? We all agreed she was a better choice.......maybe there will be some regrouping in that direction. She has the little boy, right? Just sayin'.... stranger things have happened.

 

[Baymule]

Wouldn’t THAT cause some family drama!!!

 

[Mini Horses]