Praying for God's healing to come your way. This is very difficult to believe and impossible to understand. You and your husband will need to take turns being the rock. You did the right thing with your older daughter. She would know if you were not telling her the truth.
Although not in anyway as difficult or as terrifying as what you are going through, when we were very scared about our little boy I had a thought that gave me the strength that I needed. I thought of all of the people in my family that have passed on, even ones that were gone before I was born, filling my home. Angels looking in on their baby--their grandson, their great-grandson. Hundreds of loved ones stretching through generations rooting for me and my family, loving me and lending their strength to our home. Because although my son is only a few months old, I know that I will love him and his babies, and his babies' babies. A mother's love only grows with each new family member and that must be true of at least some if not all of my grandmothers' grandmothers as well.
I believe that at times of great testing God lets the separation between heaven and earth get a little thinner. Malachi 4:6 "He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers" Give some of your burden to those loving angels, and also to our Lord.
God bless you and strengthen you. I will be praying for you and your family and I will pray that the helping hands you need will find there way to you.
Heavenly Father, watch with us over your child Spencer and grant that he may be restored to that perfect health which it is yours alone to give. Relieve his pain, guard him from all danger, restore to him your gifts of gladness and strength, and raise him up to a life of service to you. Through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
May God Bless You and Your Family. I am so sorry to hear this, and will be praying hard for Spencer. I am adding him to our prayer list. Prayers do work. Take care of yourself, share the burden with anyone willing and able to take it even for a minute.
It is wonderful that so many on her can offer up prayer for you and your family...count me in!
I don't know about Kaiser now, but I had 24 or so years of wonderful care through them in the bay area, so I pray that they allow and make it easy for your baby to get the care that he needs and the testing you and the doctors want. And may you be blessed with compassionate and intelligent doctors that are blessed and guided by the spirit that I believe in.
As far as telling the kids, while some details are too much information for little guys, letting them know that you are worried about your baby's health issues will let them understand when you just can't keep the tears in, or you are too crabby to be very compassionate to them at the moment. As long you are able to tune out the baby's problems for a little while each day to focus on all the other children individually, to remind them that they too matter and are so important to you, they will come through OK. It is OK to tell them " for 10 minutes I am going to think about (baby/ tests/something) , then I will be there to help you with your boat, necklace, homework...."....or whatever they needed you for, can give you a few minutes of permission to stress, worry, pray....while still keeping you connected to the family.
Human beings are incredibly resilient....with all the good wishes and prayers from your friends on here, around the country and then some, may you feel the love and support you need.
As far as your farm animals, it might be best to downsize for now. Maybe just keep a breeding trio or 2 of chickens....They are low maintenance and with a full gravity feeder and a few auto waters can be all but carefree for a few days every now and then while drs. and other appointments are a priority. Then you have the option as life calms down to start up again. I don't know about your pig situation, but our pigs absolutely have to have 2 times or more daily care, so they might be best to let go for now. I would personally probably keep one or 2 favorite goats because I find so much comfort in my goats, but that is just me. I know your herd just expanded and that would be a lot of money/ maintenance/ daily commitment that might be best to reduce for now. I would love to buy a goat or 2 from you, but I am afraid I won't have any money for buying goats for a few more months at least....
My heart goes out to you...so much more than I could say with words....