Ragdollcatlady's Just a Little Patch of Weeds Farm journal

[ragdollcatlady]

Hey guys... what do you think of this pic?

I took it tonight. It looks like some guys online feel deceived by formal pics so I thought I would put up a casual to round out my profile... it is actual one of my first selfies... gotta get with the times eh? I didn't realize my hair was that colorful! Do wish you could see my eyes better tho... they are actually half green around the outside. Officially hazel.

 

[Latestarter]

You are very pretty. Looks like a very nice picture to me... Possibly too "close up"... Are you sure you're older than 18??? You don't look anywhere near as old as you surely must be...

 

[ragdollcatlady]

LOL! Thanks @Latestarter !

I really appreciate the compliments!

I do have some grays coming in, just cant make them out in the pic ...

and I used the camera so that is as far as I can reach! Still have the old dinosaur/typewriter/phone!

 

[ragdollcatlady]

OK... so now I am crying and I'm not totally sure why. DD was just texting with me... I shared my McDreamy story with her and she says he is pretty cute and she thinks we would look good together! So I told her she really ought to tell him that, to which she replied she will gladly do just that given the opportunity. Then she wished me luck with this online dating thing saying that I deserve a good guy. Cue the tears.

My kids don't know half of what went on between us but they do know that I am walking away with alot of pain.

I hope I really do deserve a good guy and I hope I can find him... soon would be nice.

Mostly right now I would REALLY love for that to be McDreamy... but I will let y'all know how things go....

 

[Bruce]

Online dating didn't exist way back so I don't know what people look for. But if I were looking, yeah I think I'd like less formal pictures. I figure you live "formal" (most of us anyway) maybe a total of a week's worth of hours in your lifetime. I don't figure I would want a picture of a woman that just dragged out of bed with the flu or anything but "natural me" would be preferred. If one is a "almost always wears a dress", those would be most of the pictures. "Almost always jeans and a T-shirt", well then I would prefer more of those. You know, no false advertizing, no bait and switch.

And I agree with @Latestarter, you don't look old enough in that picture to have "out of the house" kids. Must be good genes

 

[Latestarter]

If it is or isn't McDreamy, whomever it ends up being, I hope it's the right one for you. If you're still carrying a lot of pain, perhaps you might reconsider trying to rush into another relationship?

I don't know you, and having seen only the one pic, might not recognize you if I tripped over you. Now, having said that, I've read all or most of your posts on here and you strike me as a very down to earth, fair minded, realistic, caring, generous, outgoing, & naturally (despite the pain) happy go lucky person. Now, I do know that @babsbag has met you (at least once) and could second these thoughts if they are in fact true. Just because you were in a bad relationship (for way too long) does not make YOU a bad person. Please don't feel that you "deserve" less, because of what you've been through.

 

[CntryBoy777]

Suffice it to say that if I was looking ya would sure get my "Attention" and certainly would have no hesitation being seen in public with ya, for sure!.....never sell yourself short or compromise on what you desire from life. You shouldn't have to sacrifice those to please another, if ya do, then you'll be cheating yourself of your "Dreams" to suit another and that will always be a "Grind"....remind yourself to be patient and don't feel obligated to try to make every relationship "Work", it should flow like water. Sure there may be compromise, but not sacrifice.....don't feel rushed....even by Mr DreamyFace. Think with your Head and not the Heart.....the head has Eyes to see and the brain to think.....the heart only relies on feelings and never sees past the moment. You deserve a high-quality man that will appreciate making things happen for you, not one that needs you to stand on to elevate himself. Hold to your principles and demands and a better choice can be made for the future and not simply make the mistakes of the past.

 

[ragdollcatlady]

Thanks guys!

I have worked through alot of the more intense painful things, now alot of those are just sad things in the past... A few of those subjects have come up with friends recently in conversations... they seem genuinely surprised/shocked. But he doesn't get to take away my happy for today, because I have been given so many blessings and one or 2 good friends to see me through. Sometimes it really was just knowing that one friend had faith in me that got me through.

Right now I have some anger, not all consuming, cause he isn't worth it, but enough to keep me steady on my journey outta here.

However, one of the worst things for me was the loneliness that marriage/prison was for me. I absolutely crave companionship and a friend to be with. I grew up in a large family and for being a tad bit shy, I am so much happier when surrounded by my loved ones. I need connection. When I am sick, I prefer to be on the couch where I can still be near everyone. Being stuck in a marriage meant I had no options for finding a different companion. I am just looking for a friend that actually likes me and wants to spend time with me... anything more can come later if it is supposed to.

 

[babsbag]

That is a lovely picture, and since I have met you I can say that with even more convictions than others on here. I wish my son was a little older or you a little younger...he lives in Mariposa so a little far away from you but I would set you guys up for a blind date in a heart beat. Good luck on your search to find the man that you deserve.

 

[OneFineAcre]

I think it's a nice picture.
I don't know how old you are but you look pretty young in the picture.
Younger than me.