Canesisters 2023 journal - turning my Disasters into Delights

[frustratedearthmother]

I'm not sure if I chickened-out or braved-up, but I decided that instead of requesting a meeting with him that would give him time to 'prepare', I just emailed him a very nice, professional letter - CC'ed the HR dept & blind CC'ed my personal email. If he wants to discuss it further HE can request a meeting with ME.

I had it written up yesterday, but added in "As a follow-up to our meeting on the morning of September 11...." because I'm sure he didn't report that I had requested a formal meeting and had told him that I was sorry but if he refused to help me then I would have no choice but to look for another job

Yay! I think you handled it perfectly!

 

[Baymule]

Brilliant strategy!

 

[SageHill]

Thank you @Mini Horses

I'm not sure if I chickened-out or braved-up, but I decided that instead of requesting a meeting with him that would give him time to 'prepare', I just emailed him a very nice, professional letter - CC'ed the HR dept & blind CC'ed my personal email. If he wants to discuss it further HE can request a meeting with ME.

I had it written up yesterday, but added in "As a follow-up to our meeting on the morning of September 11...." because I'm sure he didn't report that I had requested a formal meeting and had told him that I was sorry but if he refused to help me then I would have no choice but to look for another job.

SO! Counting down the days. I'll work the next 2 weeks here - unless things become so nasty that I can't stand it - and will start fresh on the morning of 10/9

PERFECT!

 

[Ridgetop]

I like the part where you reminded him that you had discussed the problems and tried to work them out. If the big management calls him in about you leaving, it is there in black and white that he knew about the problems and did not resolve them.

 

[canesisters]

Last thing I'm going to post about this -show because it's just not worth this much time anymore

Around lunch I got an email from my boss asking if I'd be available for a Teams call (video conference call) "preferably after {work troll} leaves so that you can talk without being overheard" and including his boss, the area HR Mgr & our brand new Ops Manager who hasn't even gotten his keys yet (poor thing).
I said that I would and he set it up for 4PM.
WELL! There was some kind of computer issue right at the very end of the day and she had to create handwritten tickets for the last 3 trucks. She sat up there pitching a FIT to the drivers about how she didn't know what she was doing but that she would just do the best she could and the Richmond office could just figure it out later. Then she called the woman who used to fill in for me at lunch when I ran the scale and whinnied to her about how she needed help & didn't remember how to close out the day when there were manual tickets...
At about 3:50 (we close at 3) I replied back to the email that set our meeting to 4PM saying that the scale was not closed yet because there was some kind of an issue with manual tickets and that she was waiting for the other lady to help her figure it out - because she would do ANYTHING to keep from having to speak to me.
Umm.. kinda making my entire POINT about the ridiculous working conditions in here, I think.
They moved the meeting to 4:30! FOUR MANAGERS sitting around waiting for her to get over a hissyfit that would've been handled in 5 mins if she wasn't so determined to pretend I didn't exist!!!
When she finally left, I sat there on the call staring at my boss's empty chair for almost 20mins until HIS boss could join us. The Area HR guy didn't show up, neither did the new Ops Mgr.
My boss said nothing the entire call. His boss launched in Immediately on is big plan to solve this problem - how he's going to set up weekly 'counseling' sessions with the HR guy (the one who couldn't be bothered to wait for this call) for BOTH of us so that we can work out our issues and work together to create a more pleasant working environment.
....

When he FINALLY stopped talking I asked why he thought more meetings would produce any different results than the 4 we've already had. I said that I've been dealing with a situation for over a year that neither of them would tolerate for a day. That every time I've asked for help I've been told BY MANAGEMENT to 'be nice' to 'just try to ignore her' and to 'be just as nasty back to her and maybe she'll stop'. He kept pouring on the pressure to work this out and kept telling me how he really didn't want to loose me. I pointed out that I had said the same thing to my boss TWO WEEKS AGO - that I didn't want to leave but that I could not work AT THIS DESK anymore.
Finally I just said 'What do you want from me? Do you really expect me to pass up some good opportunities that I have available right now for the hope that maybe eventually you can force her to pretend to be nice?? How would THAT be any better of a work environment? She's perfectly nice and pleasant to everyone and anyone BUT ME. If the last 4 meetings haven't been able to address whatever her issue is with me, then more meetings aren't going to help."
He kept hammering at my 'always wanting to get along' weak spot - asking if I was willing to at least try.
I finally said that I was more than willing to do whatever I could to help set things up for the next person but that I had zero confidence that they would actually put any effort into helping me.. I mean, the HR guy didn't even show up for this meeting!

Looked around before I left yesterday, around 5:30 (!) and got kinda misty. A few years ago it would have taken a car load to haul my personal belonging out of here. Over the past couple of years, I've taken some home, not brought others in.. there's nothing here that's needs to be taken home but a plant, some lotion, a handful of splenda packets....

The next 2 weeks are going to be tough. But there is so much better coming down the way.
I'll probably burst into tears the first time I walk in and one of them says a pleasant 'Good Morning'.

 

[Baymule]

This should show you that the next 2 weeks of purgatory are unnecessary. You don’t owe these jerks anything. You NEED these 2 weeks to detox from all the stress and poisonous environment, so you can go to your new job happy and ready for a better place.

Leave. Leave today and don’t look back. They are going to wring everything out of you that you can. It’s not worth it. Compose another email and hit send as you leave. Quit today and go take care of yourself to get in a good frame of mind for your new job.

 

[Mini Horses]

The next 2 weeks are going to be tough. But there is so much better coming down the way.

...better will be great! If things get too tough, just go home, without remorse. Let them deal with it and the "helpless, spoiled whiney".

I couldn't even consider staying past this Friday.

 

[farmerjan]

I would do as @Baymule suggested. Compose the email, with references to "todays meeting" and the lack of willingness for the other mgrs to even participate, the fact that you are no longer willing to try when this other person is not ever going to sincerely try and will go out of her way to not even consult with you, a senior employee with experience, and then say that in the interest of all parties you will NOT be working out the 2 week notice. You wish them the best with the company that you have FAITHFULLY SERVED for 19 years.

AND THEN TAKE YOUR PLANT AND LOTION AND SPLENDA AND LEAVE......

Take a couple of days to catch up anything you need to, that you and your sis didn't do, and call the new company and offer to start a week early to give yourself a little extra time to learn things from the lady that is leaving?
Go into a pleasant office and people who are happy to work WITH you to get you up to speed.

 

[SageHill]

OH yeah -- @Baymule and @farmerjan nailed it!! YES

 

[Finnie]

I hope your day went well today.